I just started using Oink and I want to get a good ratio. What do you recommend I do?
I already forwarded my ports and downloaded some newer torrents and leaving them to seed, but I want any other advice from current Oink users.What advice would you get to raise Oink quota?
just keep seeding.
Friday, April 30, 2010
What advice would you give to a 22 year old woman whose partner is confessing to crossdress ?
She is a close friend of mine, being very unhappy at the first moment, but perhaps ready to cope with the problem, looking for more informations and advice.
Sorry, she cannot ask the question herself because she does not write in English.What advice would you give to a 22 year old woman whose partner is confessing to crossdress ?
I'd tell her not to make any hasty decisions or judgements; to learn all she can about crossdressing, and to TALK to her partner, calmly and openly, about what it means to him, or her, and to their relationship.
There's some good basic information here;
http://www.pmpub.com/crossdressingFQA.ht鈥?/a>
which she might find useful.What advice would you give to a 22 year old woman whose partner is confessing to crossdress ?
Though I agree with Valerie in most of her explanations, I think there is a human element she leaves out with her neuroreceptor analogy. Most of us are born with the predisposition due to a hormone wash during gestation which makes it natural not a narcotic.
By partner, I am assuming that they are married. This is no doubt quite a shock to her, and she has every right to be angry. Now she needs to step back and view the situation with this new information in hand.
The cross dressing can be very disturbing to a conservative minded person, and the fact that this has been withheld from her going into the marriaige is a terrible thing to do to someone you purport to love.
If her partner is sincerely sorry about the heartache and grief he has caused by not being upfront with her, then there may be room to salvage this relationship. If the crossdressing is the only flaw in an otherwise great relationship, then she must determine how large of a flaw this is. Is he kind, thoughtful, caring towards her and her feelings? Does he think about her first and show good instincts towards family life? If he's abusive and uncaring and has a few other fatal flaws, then this is just the straw that breaks the camels back
If he is the man she has always desired, then his mistake, not hers, was not trusting the woman he loves with his deepest, most raw secret.
She needs to learn about crossdressing (information, not exposure), what it is and what it is not. Then she needs to decide what level of exposure she is comfortable with and he needs to abide by that level. This is not negotiable at this point, he needs to be respectful of her and show her that he has earned the right, and she has become comfortable with his crossdressing to allow herself more exposure to it.
She may not want him to crossdress around her or thier kids (whether they have them now or later). She may allow him to dress when no one is around or just in the bedroom between the two of them.
This is NOT a slap to her beauty, or a complaint about her femininity. This is NOT her fault, but it is something that she must come to grips with. The man she loves, has a feminine side that he expresses through dressing. As long as he understands HER feelings and needs, this does not need to be a make or break situation.
Tell her that most crossdressers are straight heterosexual men with one little kink. Their brains are hard-wired such that it releases serotonin and other neurotransmitters when they crossdress. This gives them a sensation of well-being, pleasure, sexual gratification and self-identity. It also affects the reward center of their brains, so it mimics an addiction reaction.
Crossdressing can become a serious problem in a marriage. In order for the marriage to continue happily then the partners need to be prepared to make some compromises. They need to recognize each others needs. He has a need to crossdress, she has a need to be loved by a man. He has to recognize that she is the most important thing in his life. His wife is more important to him than his crossdressing habit.
She needs to prepare a list of rules that she can tolerate. He needs to understand that he needs to place limits on his crossdressing. She may insist that the crossdressing be kept private, not before friends, family or children. She may also insist that the crossdressing be kept out of their intimate times, after all it is a real turn-off for her. Other rules may include frequency, times, or styles, (nothing vile, sexy, or disgusting) keep it in good tastes. In any case, they need to work on the rules together and be prepared to make compromises. She should try to learn as much about crossdressing as she can. Where possible she should help him with his feminine style and look.
Tell her to take self-defense classes and learn to protect herself. Seriously, that's one of the best things ANY person can do... Cross-dressers are frequent targets of violence, so every little bit helps.
Other than that, give her a hug, tell her to stay strong and never give up on who she really, no matter what other people might say.
Good luck.
First of all, I would advise her to not view this as a ';problem'; that she needs to ';cope'; with. This is really an opportunity for her and her partner to become closer. It's very difficult for many men and women to ever truly be both ';friends'; and lovers. But the fact that her partner is a crossdresser gives them an opportunity to add an extra dimension to their relationship, with a mutual interest in apparel and possibly makeup, jewelry, etc.
Tell her to explore and enjoy.
to confess to cross-dress is believe that wrong thing (from religious view) shouldn't happen. Ask him if he thinks that your relation is a mistake which should stop. If so; it's your decision to break. otherwise don't worry
I think,,no big deal,, crossdressers are usually straight men,,so it doesn't mean he is gay or bi,,just means that somewhere in his mind of likes and dislikes ,,he enjoys things that are usually meant for women to wear,, if she loves him,, just go with it,, this isn't the dark ages,, let him express himself openly,,if she doesn't he will just hide it . What happens in private is no ones business. Tell her to try to have fun with it,,and maybe both will enjoy each others fantasies.
goodluck,,
There's nothing wrong with cross-dressing. It does not hurt anyone, it does not cause any harm. Why should she worry?
well being the crossdresser in the relationship, i can say that i have had no luck at all, any woman i have been with long enough to trust with that information has pretty much just freaked out, called me some nasty names and left. so my first advise would be to avoid doing any of those things. frankly i don't see why it is that big of a deal women crossdress all the time and nobody say squat to them. and it would seem to me that women would like a guy that likes to shop, and do other girly things. lastly most crossdressers are not gay we just like your clothes.
Tell your friend to look past the crossdressing, Think of why they were together in the first place. Does he still have the qualities that attracted her. Learn why he does it. I had a boyfrend who crossdressed, he was a good guy and could pass as an attractive woman. We had alot of fun. Plus its always nice to have someone around who can tell you how your makeup looks. Just remember he needs his fem time and your friend will need his manly time there needs to be balance
To begin with she should be flattered that he trusts her enough to tell her.
There are many reasons why a guy does this. It could be he gets a sexual thrill from it and would dress for sex.
It could be that being feminine is a release from the pressures of masculine life.
It can also be because there is more choice in female clothing and it feels good.
He may on the other hand be transgendered. If this is the case and he tells her then that is a different situation.
She needs to understand that there is often a transition period for guys who cross dress. The more they do it often the more they need to do it. Then going out will be the next stage. Not all men who dress as a girl in public are transgendered.
He may not understand why he wants to do it until he has been there.
It's harmless, and it's private. She should not be telling anyone about it, because that will only embarrass him. Tell her to get over it.
if she love him , its a samll thing
If her partner loves her, then he's probably just a transvestite.
The difference between a transvestite and a drag queen is orientation. He's probably just a transvestite and is nothing to worry about.
He's probably just enamored by all that is femanine.
I know it's weird, but it's really nothing to worry about.
Sorry, she cannot ask the question herself because she does not write in English.What advice would you give to a 22 year old woman whose partner is confessing to crossdress ?
I'd tell her not to make any hasty decisions or judgements; to learn all she can about crossdressing, and to TALK to her partner, calmly and openly, about what it means to him, or her, and to their relationship.
There's some good basic information here;
http://www.pmpub.com/crossdressingFQA.ht鈥?/a>
which she might find useful.What advice would you give to a 22 year old woman whose partner is confessing to crossdress ?
Though I agree with Valerie in most of her explanations, I think there is a human element she leaves out with her neuroreceptor analogy. Most of us are born with the predisposition due to a hormone wash during gestation which makes it natural not a narcotic.
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By partner, I am assuming that they are married. This is no doubt quite a shock to her, and she has every right to be angry. Now she needs to step back and view the situation with this new information in hand.
The cross dressing can be very disturbing to a conservative minded person, and the fact that this has been withheld from her going into the marriaige is a terrible thing to do to someone you purport to love.
If her partner is sincerely sorry about the heartache and grief he has caused by not being upfront with her, then there may be room to salvage this relationship. If the crossdressing is the only flaw in an otherwise great relationship, then she must determine how large of a flaw this is. Is he kind, thoughtful, caring towards her and her feelings? Does he think about her first and show good instincts towards family life? If he's abusive and uncaring and has a few other fatal flaws, then this is just the straw that breaks the camels back
If he is the man she has always desired, then his mistake, not hers, was not trusting the woman he loves with his deepest, most raw secret.
She needs to learn about crossdressing (information, not exposure), what it is and what it is not. Then she needs to decide what level of exposure she is comfortable with and he needs to abide by that level. This is not negotiable at this point, he needs to be respectful of her and show her that he has earned the right, and she has become comfortable with his crossdressing to allow herself more exposure to it.
She may not want him to crossdress around her or thier kids (whether they have them now or later). She may allow him to dress when no one is around or just in the bedroom between the two of them.
This is NOT a slap to her beauty, or a complaint about her femininity. This is NOT her fault, but it is something that she must come to grips with. The man she loves, has a feminine side that he expresses through dressing. As long as he understands HER feelings and needs, this does not need to be a make or break situation.
Tell her that most crossdressers are straight heterosexual men with one little kink. Their brains are hard-wired such that it releases serotonin and other neurotransmitters when they crossdress. This gives them a sensation of well-being, pleasure, sexual gratification and self-identity. It also affects the reward center of their brains, so it mimics an addiction reaction.
Crossdressing can become a serious problem in a marriage. In order for the marriage to continue happily then the partners need to be prepared to make some compromises. They need to recognize each others needs. He has a need to crossdress, she has a need to be loved by a man. He has to recognize that she is the most important thing in his life. His wife is more important to him than his crossdressing habit.
She needs to prepare a list of rules that she can tolerate. He needs to understand that he needs to place limits on his crossdressing. She may insist that the crossdressing be kept private, not before friends, family or children. She may also insist that the crossdressing be kept out of their intimate times, after all it is a real turn-off for her. Other rules may include frequency, times, or styles, (nothing vile, sexy, or disgusting) keep it in good tastes. In any case, they need to work on the rules together and be prepared to make compromises. She should try to learn as much about crossdressing as she can. Where possible she should help him with his feminine style and look.
Tell her to take self-defense classes and learn to protect herself. Seriously, that's one of the best things ANY person can do... Cross-dressers are frequent targets of violence, so every little bit helps.
Other than that, give her a hug, tell her to stay strong and never give up on who she really, no matter what other people might say.
Good luck.
First of all, I would advise her to not view this as a ';problem'; that she needs to ';cope'; with. This is really an opportunity for her and her partner to become closer. It's very difficult for many men and women to ever truly be both ';friends'; and lovers. But the fact that her partner is a crossdresser gives them an opportunity to add an extra dimension to their relationship, with a mutual interest in apparel and possibly makeup, jewelry, etc.
Tell her to explore and enjoy.
to confess to cross-dress is believe that wrong thing (from religious view) shouldn't happen. Ask him if he thinks that your relation is a mistake which should stop. If so; it's your decision to break. otherwise don't worry
I think,,no big deal,, crossdressers are usually straight men,,so it doesn't mean he is gay or bi,,just means that somewhere in his mind of likes and dislikes ,,he enjoys things that are usually meant for women to wear,, if she loves him,, just go with it,, this isn't the dark ages,, let him express himself openly,,if she doesn't he will just hide it . What happens in private is no ones business. Tell her to try to have fun with it,,and maybe both will enjoy each others fantasies.
goodluck,,
There's nothing wrong with cross-dressing. It does not hurt anyone, it does not cause any harm. Why should she worry?
well being the crossdresser in the relationship, i can say that i have had no luck at all, any woman i have been with long enough to trust with that information has pretty much just freaked out, called me some nasty names and left. so my first advise would be to avoid doing any of those things. frankly i don't see why it is that big of a deal women crossdress all the time and nobody say squat to them. and it would seem to me that women would like a guy that likes to shop, and do other girly things. lastly most crossdressers are not gay we just like your clothes.
Tell your friend to look past the crossdressing, Think of why they were together in the first place. Does he still have the qualities that attracted her. Learn why he does it. I had a boyfrend who crossdressed, he was a good guy and could pass as an attractive woman. We had alot of fun. Plus its always nice to have someone around who can tell you how your makeup looks. Just remember he needs his fem time and your friend will need his manly time there needs to be balance
To begin with she should be flattered that he trusts her enough to tell her.
There are many reasons why a guy does this. It could be he gets a sexual thrill from it and would dress for sex.
It could be that being feminine is a release from the pressures of masculine life.
It can also be because there is more choice in female clothing and it feels good.
He may on the other hand be transgendered. If this is the case and he tells her then that is a different situation.
She needs to understand that there is often a transition period for guys who cross dress. The more they do it often the more they need to do it. Then going out will be the next stage. Not all men who dress as a girl in public are transgendered.
He may not understand why he wants to do it until he has been there.
It's harmless, and it's private. She should not be telling anyone about it, because that will only embarrass him. Tell her to get over it.
if she love him , its a samll thing
If her partner loves her, then he's probably just a transvestite.
The difference between a transvestite and a drag queen is orientation. He's probably just a transvestite and is nothing to worry about.
He's probably just enamored by all that is femanine.
I know it's weird, but it's really nothing to worry about.
Need girl advice: Another girl checking out your man and ignoring you, what would you do?
What would you do if this girl (you don't know her from before) at an event shows your man a lot of attention and eye contact but totally ignoring you. Let's say your hubby does not pay her so much attention. Do you get bothered by her ignoring you and hunting for your man? Is there anything one can do?
What do you usually do?Need girl advice: Another girl checking out your man and ignoring you, what would you do?
Oh oh... sounds like I hear a very very jealous girl asking this question. Girl, I'm a guy, but I understand how you feel and what you're really feeling is called, ';Insecurity.';
My advice, let it go. Have faith and trust in your hubby who is only with you and ONLY you. You will know if he is faithful too... depending on how much he trusts you.
There's nothing you can do but learn to control your 'emotional jealousy'. Usually, as human beings, our emotions get the best of us. I think that's what you're going through. Don't get second thoughts about what this girl is going to do. Don't be overprotective with your hubby by snarling and hissing at this girl.
Trust me, if everything falls into place, then your hubby knows he only loves you.Need girl advice: Another girl checking out your man and ignoring you, what would you do?
some girls are totally sl*ts..
they don't care about that a man is still in relation and doesn't seem single..
they know the eye game..
and they can seek attention of your man..
and of course, she will ignore you..
what you can do is..
stay close to your man..
and don't let him see here and there..
be so much funny and attention seeking that he didn't even bothered to see here and there..
look dear, sl*ts are everywhere..
you have to save you man and your relationship from them
Good Luck
:)
I can't tell you how many times this has happened to me. My husband is pretty good looking. There have been a couple of times that we've gone to this one restaraunt and the waitress (that somehow always ends up with our table) will completely ignore me, tough my husband, and only get his order. He has to order for ME.
Here's what I did: Just pretend that YOU don't notice her and each time she ';interrupts';, don't act like it's a big deal. I actually told my hubby that I found it ';flattering'; and that won me more brownie points for not being a jealous shrew. Just let it roll, you know who he's going home with!
First of all he is not ';your'; man he is ';a'; man. Stop being so possessive.
Secondly, he loves you enough to put a ring on your finger, not just his finger in your ring.
Be confident in that love, and if some girl is interested in him, just be proud he still looks good enough to get new attention. You must be with a hottie, so congratulations.
well this type of thing pulled a bunch of my Friends apart,
first find out a little bit about her, she might just be a very friendly (whore-ish), girl(what happened in my experience)
if not dont make a big deal of it because you will come off as looking controlling and jealous.
just make shure he doesnt pay TOO much attention back to her and you should be ok
hope this helps
-Howard
I would SNAP!!!! I would make myself be heard.
And if she kept it up, I'd take her *** outside. ***** can look @ my fist in her eye or my boot in her face. that's just me.
you gotta stand up for yourself, claim what's yours
id be bothered by it just tell her to back off
You can't start fights just becuz someone looked , stared or said ';hi'; with a smile to your hubby.
If they are doing something you can step in
hell yeah i would be bothered. not because she's ignoring him byt because she obviously likes him. Throw her an evil look !!!!!!
~ Kiss my husband while she is trying to flirt (so she is sure he is with someone) then ignore it. Take it as a compliment. ~
if my boyfriend was buying her flirtyness I could kick both of their butts
If he isn't and takes no notice, I would leave her alone :)
WHEN SHES AROUND BE EXTRA LOVING TO UR MAN LET THE ***** KNO HES MINES AND HES OFF LIMITS
Do NOTHING, self confidence is the best revenge :)
punch the ***** in the face
tell her that your man aint interested in a slut like her,n tell her to beat it
well from what you said yes i would be annoyed! just tell her to back off
ur husband should ignore her... and walk away
Never paly a game when u are not sure how to..
What do you usually do?Need girl advice: Another girl checking out your man and ignoring you, what would you do?
Oh oh... sounds like I hear a very very jealous girl asking this question. Girl, I'm a guy, but I understand how you feel and what you're really feeling is called, ';Insecurity.';
My advice, let it go. Have faith and trust in your hubby who is only with you and ONLY you. You will know if he is faithful too... depending on how much he trusts you.
There's nothing you can do but learn to control your 'emotional jealousy'. Usually, as human beings, our emotions get the best of us. I think that's what you're going through. Don't get second thoughts about what this girl is going to do. Don't be overprotective with your hubby by snarling and hissing at this girl.
Trust me, if everything falls into place, then your hubby knows he only loves you.Need girl advice: Another girl checking out your man and ignoring you, what would you do?
some girls are totally sl*ts..
they don't care about that a man is still in relation and doesn't seem single..
they know the eye game..
and they can seek attention of your man..
and of course, she will ignore you..
what you can do is..
stay close to your man..
and don't let him see here and there..
be so much funny and attention seeking that he didn't even bothered to see here and there..
look dear, sl*ts are everywhere..
you have to save you man and your relationship from them
Good Luck
:)
I can't tell you how many times this has happened to me. My husband is pretty good looking. There have been a couple of times that we've gone to this one restaraunt and the waitress (that somehow always ends up with our table) will completely ignore me, tough my husband, and only get his order. He has to order for ME.
Here's what I did: Just pretend that YOU don't notice her and each time she ';interrupts';, don't act like it's a big deal. I actually told my hubby that I found it ';flattering'; and that won me more brownie points for not being a jealous shrew. Just let it roll, you know who he's going home with!
First of all he is not ';your'; man he is ';a'; man. Stop being so possessive.
Secondly, he loves you enough to put a ring on your finger, not just his finger in your ring.
Be confident in that love, and if some girl is interested in him, just be proud he still looks good enough to get new attention. You must be with a hottie, so congratulations.
well this type of thing pulled a bunch of my Friends apart,
first find out a little bit about her, she might just be a very friendly (whore-ish), girl(what happened in my experience)
if not dont make a big deal of it because you will come off as looking controlling and jealous.
just make shure he doesnt pay TOO much attention back to her and you should be ok
hope this helps
-Howard
I would SNAP!!!! I would make myself be heard.
And if she kept it up, I'd take her *** outside. ***** can look @ my fist in her eye or my boot in her face. that's just me.
you gotta stand up for yourself, claim what's yours
id be bothered by it just tell her to back off
You can't start fights just becuz someone looked , stared or said ';hi'; with a smile to your hubby.
If they are doing something you can step in
hell yeah i would be bothered. not because she's ignoring him byt because she obviously likes him. Throw her an evil look !!!!!!
~ Kiss my husband while she is trying to flirt (so she is sure he is with someone) then ignore it. Take it as a compliment. ~
if my boyfriend was buying her flirtyness I could kick both of their butts
If he isn't and takes no notice, I would leave her alone :)
WHEN SHES AROUND BE EXTRA LOVING TO UR MAN LET THE ***** KNO HES MINES AND HES OFF LIMITS
Do NOTHING, self confidence is the best revenge :)
punch the ***** in the face
tell her that your man aint interested in a slut like her,n tell her to beat it
well from what you said yes i would be annoyed! just tell her to back off
ur husband should ignore her... and walk away
Never paly a game when u are not sure how to..
I'm going to study abroad this semester and I would like to know if you have any advice or tips?
How will your Semester at Sea voyage create (or enhance) your personal global perspective? Highlight your discussion by referencing at least one country on your itinerary and by explaining how your time there will further develop your awareness.
What are your academic goals, and how will Semester at Sea help you to you achieve them? Include at least two examples.I'm going to study abroad this semester and I would like to know if you have any advice or tips?
Hey,
Although I shouldn't be doing your homework for you here's some ideas, lol. Venturing abroad to study allows you as an individual to obtain an international perspective on society. It allows you to view various cultures around the world through cultural relativism (meaning for what they are worth), rather then through an ethnocentric mindset. You're able to witness and understand foreign education and the importance of certain civic issues. Certain cities such as London, the largest in most populated in Europe, is the epitome of a melting pot, with numerous individuals coming from different religions and cultural backgrounds. This immediate surrounding enables you to develop your awareness of these people and so forth.
Hope this helps!I'm going to study abroad this semester and I would like to know if you have any advice or tips?
It looks like you need help writing a paper to be accepted to a semester at sea program, not tips about what to expect. That's ok, but be upfront about it.
What are your academic goals, and how will Semester at Sea help you to you achieve them? Include at least two examples.I'm going to study abroad this semester and I would like to know if you have any advice or tips?
Hey,
Although I shouldn't be doing your homework for you here's some ideas, lol. Venturing abroad to study allows you as an individual to obtain an international perspective on society. It allows you to view various cultures around the world through cultural relativism (meaning for what they are worth), rather then through an ethnocentric mindset. You're able to witness and understand foreign education and the importance of certain civic issues. Certain cities such as London, the largest in most populated in Europe, is the epitome of a melting pot, with numerous individuals coming from different religions and cultural backgrounds. This immediate surrounding enables you to develop your awareness of these people and so forth.
Hope this helps!I'm going to study abroad this semester and I would like to know if you have any advice or tips?
It looks like you need help writing a paper to be accepted to a semester at sea program, not tips about what to expect. That's ok, but be upfront about it.
How do you feel about your divorce, and what advice would you give?
For example, is there anything you wish you had done differently at all?How do you feel about your divorce, and what advice would you give?
Don't get Married for a Kid =) young%26amp;dumb...
My son is happy.
Her and I get along way better when I only see her a few times a week
=)How do you feel about your divorce, and what advice would you give?
It's not the answer to somethings and yet it maybe the answer to everything. One should really think about this before you sign the paper to go through with it. Never make a snap choice think it through when you have children that will be affected by it. If you really can't seem to make things work and you have tried for a period of time. You may find yourself sitting in front of an attorney. The real difference for women are by they time they are in front of that attorney she has already accepted the fact the marriage is over. The man on the other hand will feel it as the marriage is final and over he will start to feel the loss. Never talk down the mate who has left and your children will have an easier time of it. If you talk down the mate your children will lean to that mate because he feels you are being mean to that mate. Sometimes the marriage ends out no caring for each other, its no one fault and no one should be guilty. It happens., its hard on kids so be careful of how you handle it.
nope, not really, I wouldn't change much.
advice: be fair, don't use it as a forum to get back at each other, you should both move on with your lives , and you can't do that while you're stabbing each other in the back.
Take what you brought into it and split what you got together. If it was a 1 income household, sit down and figure out how to get the other to the point where they can maintain a household on their own (be that , school, alimony, getting a job,new career whatever..be creative if you have to). But be fair.
Do not , under any circumstances , no matter what..use your kids as pawns or even use them as counsellors..they do not need to hear that crap! I don't care what your ex did, does,etc. doesn't matter. it's still their mom or dad.
Do talk to them and get them counselling if they need it, and have a united front for them. Don't put them in the middle of any fights!
My divorce caused my downfall even after I remarried. I became emotionally lonely and have low self esteem and not 'myself ' anymore till now.
I should have gone to a counsellor..and forgiven him even there were lots of his doings were unforgivable.
My advise:
Think of his ';possitives';, forgive him and go to a marriage counsellor together. ';Never say never';. Try all avenues first.
sweetie if i had it to do all over again i would never have done it, i had a really good wife and mother of my kids, i threw 23 yrs right out the window, but i didnt see it that way then, so im sitting here all alone, and let me tell u it gets lonley, i have dated but the women are not interested in love anymore, they all want to have a relationship thats open, to where they can come and go with whomever they chose, my advise is to work it out if possible, make the changes u have to and accept the ones that caint be changed as long as they are not like cheating and lieing, it comes back home to u later on, and hits u pretty hard, and by then its to late
I wish I had hunted him and his play toy down and beat both their a@@@..Regret that. .threw 20 years of marriage down the toliet..I wish I had set his new car on fire..there I feel better...
Now, 27 years later, I wish I would have known about Bird Nest custody.preventing blackheads
Don't get Married for a Kid =) young%26amp;dumb...
My son is happy.
Her and I get along way better when I only see her a few times a week
=)How do you feel about your divorce, and what advice would you give?
It's not the answer to somethings and yet it maybe the answer to everything. One should really think about this before you sign the paper to go through with it. Never make a snap choice think it through when you have children that will be affected by it. If you really can't seem to make things work and you have tried for a period of time. You may find yourself sitting in front of an attorney. The real difference for women are by they time they are in front of that attorney she has already accepted the fact the marriage is over. The man on the other hand will feel it as the marriage is final and over he will start to feel the loss. Never talk down the mate who has left and your children will have an easier time of it. If you talk down the mate your children will lean to that mate because he feels you are being mean to that mate. Sometimes the marriage ends out no caring for each other, its no one fault and no one should be guilty. It happens., its hard on kids so be careful of how you handle it.
nope, not really, I wouldn't change much.
advice: be fair, don't use it as a forum to get back at each other, you should both move on with your lives , and you can't do that while you're stabbing each other in the back.
Take what you brought into it and split what you got together. If it was a 1 income household, sit down and figure out how to get the other to the point where they can maintain a household on their own (be that , school, alimony, getting a job,new career whatever..be creative if you have to). But be fair.
Do not , under any circumstances , no matter what..use your kids as pawns or even use them as counsellors..they do not need to hear that crap! I don't care what your ex did, does,etc. doesn't matter. it's still their mom or dad.
Do talk to them and get them counselling if they need it, and have a united front for them. Don't put them in the middle of any fights!
My divorce caused my downfall even after I remarried. I became emotionally lonely and have low self esteem and not 'myself ' anymore till now.
I should have gone to a counsellor..and forgiven him even there were lots of his doings were unforgivable.
My advise:
Think of his ';possitives';, forgive him and go to a marriage counsellor together. ';Never say never';. Try all avenues first.
sweetie if i had it to do all over again i would never have done it, i had a really good wife and mother of my kids, i threw 23 yrs right out the window, but i didnt see it that way then, so im sitting here all alone, and let me tell u it gets lonley, i have dated but the women are not interested in love anymore, they all want to have a relationship thats open, to where they can come and go with whomever they chose, my advise is to work it out if possible, make the changes u have to and accept the ones that caint be changed as long as they are not like cheating and lieing, it comes back home to u later on, and hits u pretty hard, and by then its to late
I wish I had hunted him and his play toy down and beat both their a@@@..Regret that. .threw 20 years of marriage down the toliet..I wish I had set his new car on fire..there I feel better...
Now, 27 years later, I wish I would have known about Bird Nest custody.
Is good advice confirmation of what you already know?
The question applies to the question.Is good advice confirmation of what you already know?
good advice might be confirmation of what you already know...
just a different way of approaching a situation.
or good advice can sometimes present a new way of looking at a situation that you might not have thought of.
good advice should always be positive and beneficial to you.
good advice might be confirmation of what you already know...
just a different way of approaching a situation.
or good advice can sometimes present a new way of looking at a situation that you might not have thought of.
good advice should always be positive and beneficial to you.
What is the best design for this organization you advice ?
I constructed my small business company, and now I am designing the internal system of it... Please advice me with the best model for an export based company, starting up....including a breif job description ..What is the best design for this organization you advice ?
Sorry have no ideal, wish I could help.
Sorry have no ideal, wish I could help.
What relevant advice would you give to a tradesperson, tenant and property owner?
in relation to a fire in the kitchen?What relevant advice would you give to a tradesperson, tenant and property owner?
We need more info here: It all depends on if the tenant caused it or not. If the tenant had renters insurance or not. How bad was the fire?What relevant advice would you give to a tradesperson, tenant and property owner?
Did the tenant not have renter's insurance? I pity him if he did not.
We need more info here: It all depends on if the tenant caused it or not. If the tenant had renters insurance or not. How bad was the fire?What relevant advice would you give to a tradesperson, tenant and property owner?
Did the tenant not have renter's insurance? I pity him if he did not.
I Need Advice About Getting My Azzzz Pierced ? How Big of An Azzzz Ring Do You Recommend ?
One small enough to be placed in the proper location so that when manipulated, it does some good in terms of elevating your feelings, and big enough to reach two different locations. I will let you use your delightfully disgusting imagination.
:D
:D
What have you learned about life so far? What advice can you give everyone?
I believe that each and every human being has a story worth telling. I would like to hear yours.What have you learned about life so far? What advice can you give everyone?
I have learned that there is no forever, so a person has to be ready to adapt to change. Life is all about changes. The better a person is able to ';go with the flow';, the better they will be able to live a happy life.What have you learned about life so far? What advice can you give everyone?
Never forget that everyone is on this planet doing the same thing that you are... living. Almost every human desires the same thing... happiness, the ability to live freely, the basic necessities to survive and some space to be individuals. Learn to put yourself in another persons shoes and realize how similar we all really are.
i learnt never to trust no one.
EVERYONE ive ever known has screwed me over. so it taught me to ONLY rely upon myself.
What I have learned from life is just when you think you have it all figured out, life throws you a sucker punch. The best advice I have got is keep your head up, and your nose to the grind stone. Happiness is how you look at your situation not what you do or did. Example say you got lost your job, then that wish that you had nothing to do just came true. So learn to laugh at the irony of life, but don't stop living it just go where it takes you. Do the best you can, regardless of what others think ';your best'; is always good enough, the only person you have to beat is yourself.
i have learnt dat life is an exam we have 2 pass and we wil get reward in da form of heaven or hell! basically i advise all to dun trust any1 coz every1 is so selfish and will consider u after their own preferences! u come in dis world alone n u have to leave it alone! believe in god! and live fairly!
It is still being written, and I take as many notes as possible.
In life there are spaces for many things, they move and move you. they are alive with mysteries , they are fragile and they become strong, they are foundational in many forms. being touched and touching the elements are in itself, the introduction to all that I can hope to know.
As each year passes I discover that there is so much to learn in life.When I was a teen life seemed to revolve around myself and my immediate circle of friends and family. When I went to college I met a lot of different and fascinating people. At the age of 21 I found myself wanting to learn about everything I could possibly learn in one lifetime. People and different cultures are so interesting and yet basically at the core so similar.
I traveled to a few foreign countries when I was 22 and met even MORE different and fascinating people I constantly read and try to learn about current events and historical events as well.
I moved from the south to Minnesota when I was 25 and learned that even in America there are cultural differences by region and now when I talk to friends and family from back home they can hear the change in my accent and way of life.
The most important thing I have learned over 29 years of life is to stop judging and start living.
No one is better than anyone else and everyone can teach you something about life if you just listen and learn.
That we are the creator (God) of our own World. Feelings and thoughts create.
First thing I've learned: if you can't write intelligibly, use the spellcheck.
hi there,,, well a story worth telling .. yes my story is that as a child i lost my innosence..as i grew i lost my health withtime now i am a disabled in college.. i lost my marriage once married.. well is taht a story .. and i lost myself now..
let me telll u these lines above r not just a story but the reality of my life, i have really lost a lot .. but wat have i learned is that no matter what i beleive in my ownself... i am a top scorer at my uni .. and even the profs had underestimated my abilities im an author of 20 articles on psychology a poet of 200+ poems and my age is only 20... believe it or not .. its the truth ...
what have i learned is that i am strong to face every torment of this world... solobng as i trust no one but myself and God... and my message to this world is that .. u might feel alone and broke.. but if u believe in yourself... you will never break down and cry .. u will never feel dead beforer death .. and the most important thing is that ...i have started councelling people after all i went through and i find peace in it .. so by sharing others sorrows your decrease your pain .. HELP OTHERS LIVE AND YOUR LIFE WILL BE EASIER...
God bless the world.. amen
i've learned to enjoy the differences in people in that understanding them rather then condemning them is easier, it doesn't help in liking them any more mind you but at least i know why.
That one can act responsibly and still fail to achieve one's goals.
k listen now my advice 2 u is tht u should let ur n ur brain decide not wht otherz say about whatever thing n more life is about tryin n not winning coz tryin is in fact more than winning
n much much more 2 say...
LIFE-I AM LEARNING IT EVERY TIME,IT OFFERS ALL THE NEW EXPERIENCES TO ME ALL THE TIME,IT IS DEEP AND SOUND DEEP INSIDE BUT TENDER AND LOVABLE,ITS A MIXTURE OF TRUTH AND FICTION,ITS SOMETIMES SWEET AND SOUR,ITS CUROIUS AND JELOUS AT TIMES,AND SO ON.....BUT ONE THING I LEARNED LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL.
we should enjoy the every moment of it and let the others do the same. My life story is a romantic comedy with some tragic character playing their minor roles. I'm the hero and the villain in my story.
I have learned to trust God in everything that i do and everything works out for the better when i do.
That every man is deserving of a modicum of sympathy. Most of us aren't that many $$ from living in a box on the street. Giving makes the heart feel good.
Most things of real value do not come without effort; sometimes lots of effort. No matter what the skill, there are no shortcuts around diligence and practice.
Most everyone could use a little more patience; especially me.
And life is indeed short, but my life has been full and joyful, because I have an appreciation for the simple things as well as the complex and the material. Everybody likes ';toys,'; but for some there's no end to it. Material goods do not bring real happiness.
I have learned that life is not fair but that there is nothing you can do about it. I've learned that when it is your time to die, there is absolutely nothing you can do about it, but that if it is NOT your time to die, then you are not going....regardless of stupid medical mistakes etc......
I've learned that no matter how good or bad it gets, life never stays the same. Everything changes.
there is a right and wrong why to do a right and wrong thing .so many do the right thing the wrong why and wonder why god is not with them they must do the right thing the right way .and so many no how to do a wrong thing the right way and they prosper in wrong doing and we say to god why i who do what is right and he that does what is wrong ,why is it he succeeds and i fail? it is because we must do the right thing the right why to succed or we must do the wrong thing the right why to suceed .to do the right or wrong thing the wrong why is foolish and unproductive .
Probably the most important thing I've learned so far, is that this is my life, and it's up to me (and nobody else) to determine how I see things. Events are simply that ,an event, and I can choose which way I see and deal with that event. I find I am more at peace when I control my life and don't let life control me.
It was Shakespeare who once said: ';At least to thine self be honest!'; Never was there a truer life philosophy spoken!!!!
I've learned that we all want happiness, and when we try to fill it ourselves, we fail. Happiness comes from using your talents to serve others, and others will give back to you to provide happiness. The other thing is to be real about your weaknesses. This keeps you humble as you use your talents to serve others. These two things are blessed by God and what will grant us exception in the next life.
I have learned that there is no forever, so a person has to be ready to adapt to change. Life is all about changes. The better a person is able to ';go with the flow';, the better they will be able to live a happy life.What have you learned about life so far? What advice can you give everyone?
Never forget that everyone is on this planet doing the same thing that you are... living. Almost every human desires the same thing... happiness, the ability to live freely, the basic necessities to survive and some space to be individuals. Learn to put yourself in another persons shoes and realize how similar we all really are.
i learnt never to trust no one.
EVERYONE ive ever known has screwed me over. so it taught me to ONLY rely upon myself.
What I have learned from life is just when you think you have it all figured out, life throws you a sucker punch. The best advice I have got is keep your head up, and your nose to the grind stone. Happiness is how you look at your situation not what you do or did. Example say you got lost your job, then that wish that you had nothing to do just came true. So learn to laugh at the irony of life, but don't stop living it just go where it takes you. Do the best you can, regardless of what others think ';your best'; is always good enough, the only person you have to beat is yourself.
i have learnt dat life is an exam we have 2 pass and we wil get reward in da form of heaven or hell! basically i advise all to dun trust any1 coz every1 is so selfish and will consider u after their own preferences! u come in dis world alone n u have to leave it alone! believe in god! and live fairly!
It is still being written, and I take as many notes as possible.
In life there are spaces for many things, they move and move you. they are alive with mysteries , they are fragile and they become strong, they are foundational in many forms. being touched and touching the elements are in itself, the introduction to all that I can hope to know.
As each year passes I discover that there is so much to learn in life.When I was a teen life seemed to revolve around myself and my immediate circle of friends and family. When I went to college I met a lot of different and fascinating people. At the age of 21 I found myself wanting to learn about everything I could possibly learn in one lifetime. People and different cultures are so interesting and yet basically at the core so similar.
I traveled to a few foreign countries when I was 22 and met even MORE different and fascinating people I constantly read and try to learn about current events and historical events as well.
I moved from the south to Minnesota when I was 25 and learned that even in America there are cultural differences by region and now when I talk to friends and family from back home they can hear the change in my accent and way of life.
The most important thing I have learned over 29 years of life is to stop judging and start living.
No one is better than anyone else and everyone can teach you something about life if you just listen and learn.
That we are the creator (God) of our own World. Feelings and thoughts create.
First thing I've learned: if you can't write intelligibly, use the spellcheck.
hi there,,, well a story worth telling .. yes my story is that as a child i lost my innosence..as i grew i lost my health withtime now i am a disabled in college.. i lost my marriage once married.. well is taht a story .. and i lost myself now..
let me telll u these lines above r not just a story but the reality of my life, i have really lost a lot .. but wat have i learned is that no matter what i beleive in my ownself... i am a top scorer at my uni .. and even the profs had underestimated my abilities im an author of 20 articles on psychology a poet of 200+ poems and my age is only 20... believe it or not .. its the truth ...
what have i learned is that i am strong to face every torment of this world... solobng as i trust no one but myself and God... and my message to this world is that .. u might feel alone and broke.. but if u believe in yourself... you will never break down and cry .. u will never feel dead beforer death .. and the most important thing is that ...i have started councelling people after all i went through and i find peace in it .. so by sharing others sorrows your decrease your pain .. HELP OTHERS LIVE AND YOUR LIFE WILL BE EASIER...
God bless the world.. amen
i've learned to enjoy the differences in people in that understanding them rather then condemning them is easier, it doesn't help in liking them any more mind you but at least i know why.
That one can act responsibly and still fail to achieve one's goals.
k listen now my advice 2 u is tht u should let ur n ur brain decide not wht otherz say about whatever thing n more life is about tryin n not winning coz tryin is in fact more than winning
n much much more 2 say...
LIFE-I AM LEARNING IT EVERY TIME,IT OFFERS ALL THE NEW EXPERIENCES TO ME ALL THE TIME,IT IS DEEP AND SOUND DEEP INSIDE BUT TENDER AND LOVABLE,ITS A MIXTURE OF TRUTH AND FICTION,ITS SOMETIMES SWEET AND SOUR,ITS CUROIUS AND JELOUS AT TIMES,AND SO ON.....BUT ONE THING I LEARNED LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL.
we should enjoy the every moment of it and let the others do the same. My life story is a romantic comedy with some tragic character playing their minor roles. I'm the hero and the villain in my story.
I have learned to trust God in everything that i do and everything works out for the better when i do.
That every man is deserving of a modicum of sympathy. Most of us aren't that many $$ from living in a box on the street. Giving makes the heart feel good.
Most things of real value do not come without effort; sometimes lots of effort. No matter what the skill, there are no shortcuts around diligence and practice.
Most everyone could use a little more patience; especially me.
And life is indeed short, but my life has been full and joyful, because I have an appreciation for the simple things as well as the complex and the material. Everybody likes ';toys,'; but for some there's no end to it. Material goods do not bring real happiness.
I have learned that life is not fair but that there is nothing you can do about it. I've learned that when it is your time to die, there is absolutely nothing you can do about it, but that if it is NOT your time to die, then you are not going....regardless of stupid medical mistakes etc......
I've learned that no matter how good or bad it gets, life never stays the same. Everything changes.
there is a right and wrong why to do a right and wrong thing .so many do the right thing the wrong why and wonder why god is not with them they must do the right thing the right way .and so many no how to do a wrong thing the right way and they prosper in wrong doing and we say to god why i who do what is right and he that does what is wrong ,why is it he succeeds and i fail? it is because we must do the right thing the right why to succed or we must do the wrong thing the right why to suceed .to do the right or wrong thing the wrong why is foolish and unproductive .
Probably the most important thing I've learned so far, is that this is my life, and it's up to me (and nobody else) to determine how I see things. Events are simply that ,an event, and I can choose which way I see and deal with that event. I find I am more at peace when I control my life and don't let life control me.
It was Shakespeare who once said: ';At least to thine self be honest!'; Never was there a truer life philosophy spoken!!!!
I've learned that we all want happiness, and when we try to fill it ourselves, we fail. Happiness comes from using your talents to serve others, and others will give back to you to provide happiness. The other thing is to be real about your weaknesses. This keeps you humble as you use your talents to serve others. These two things are blessed by God and what will grant us exception in the next life.
I want to start canning, do you have any advice?
I am moving to a farm and I will have about every vegetable and already have some fruit trees, peach, pear, apricot, apple. Do you have any advice for a first time canner?I want to start canning, do you have any advice?
Be organized and make sure you have everything you need before you even start. Read through all the recipes your going to use and make sure you have enough ingredients. Make sure your jars are sterilized along with the lids and rings. Have your water tested if your making anything pickled, soft water will make them mushy and give a nasty looking color. Having enough counter/work space is very important. When your jars come out of the canner place them away from any cool drafts as they can and will shatter if you put them directly in front of an a/c vent {yes it happened to me, what a damn mess plum jelly no less} Have fruits and veggies ripe but not over or under ripe that will also make a big diff in the quality of the finished product. If you want to do allot of canning stagger your planting so your not overwhelmed because everything will come ripe at the same time. In other words plant 2 rows of peas then 1 week later plant 2 more, this goes for anything you really like. And if you get overwhelmed with your harvest don`t be afraid to give it away, but be forewarned your friends might start locking there cars and hiding if you try and pawn too much off on them, LOL. Good luck with your venture.I want to start canning, do you have any advice?
Get an updated book on canning. Follow the directions to the letter. Canning is a lot of work and it is time consuming but the results are worth the effort. Again, it is vital that you read, understand and follow the directions. Some foods that contain a lot of acid or are canned with vinegar are pretty safe but low acid foods and meat are dangerous unless it is done exactly right. You will find by reading the canning book that some things have to be pressure canned and some can be water bath canned. There is a big difference. Each type of food will have different instructions as to how to pack them and how much time they have to spend in the caner. Read up on it and enjoy.
Don't jump to conclusions about someone elses canning unless you've tried it. Some people don't always tell the truth and some are just plain stupid.
Try all methods or at least try and figure them out. I wouldn't try anything that I didn't know for sure, you could waste a lot of time and expenses.
Go to the library and ask them what books they can recommend for you; You have to know what you are doing when you can something because if you do it wrong you could get very very sick from the bacteria or even mold getting in the food.
Start shopping thrift stores, garage sales, wherever, now for supplies. Jars can be found for $.10- $.50 at garage sales, etc. I bought my canner at St Vincents for $5.00. You will save oodles of money if you start now, before everybody else does.
Ball Corp. has a very good book on canning. Not so detailed but informative. I bought one at Wal mart two years ago( In the canning supply dept)
you should look around at diffrent websites to help you out in what you need for supplies.
http://www.homecanning.com/
grum and renpen are on the mark.
enjoy the your efforts.preventing blackheads
Be organized and make sure you have everything you need before you even start. Read through all the recipes your going to use and make sure you have enough ingredients. Make sure your jars are sterilized along with the lids and rings. Have your water tested if your making anything pickled, soft water will make them mushy and give a nasty looking color. Having enough counter/work space is very important. When your jars come out of the canner place them away from any cool drafts as they can and will shatter if you put them directly in front of an a/c vent {yes it happened to me, what a damn mess plum jelly no less} Have fruits and veggies ripe but not over or under ripe that will also make a big diff in the quality of the finished product. If you want to do allot of canning stagger your planting so your not overwhelmed because everything will come ripe at the same time. In other words plant 2 rows of peas then 1 week later plant 2 more, this goes for anything you really like. And if you get overwhelmed with your harvest don`t be afraid to give it away, but be forewarned your friends might start locking there cars and hiding if you try and pawn too much off on them, LOL. Good luck with your venture.I want to start canning, do you have any advice?
Get an updated book on canning. Follow the directions to the letter. Canning is a lot of work and it is time consuming but the results are worth the effort. Again, it is vital that you read, understand and follow the directions. Some foods that contain a lot of acid or are canned with vinegar are pretty safe but low acid foods and meat are dangerous unless it is done exactly right. You will find by reading the canning book that some things have to be pressure canned and some can be water bath canned. There is a big difference. Each type of food will have different instructions as to how to pack them and how much time they have to spend in the caner. Read up on it and enjoy.
Don't jump to conclusions about someone elses canning unless you've tried it. Some people don't always tell the truth and some are just plain stupid.
Try all methods or at least try and figure them out. I wouldn't try anything that I didn't know for sure, you could waste a lot of time and expenses.
Go to the library and ask them what books they can recommend for you; You have to know what you are doing when you can something because if you do it wrong you could get very very sick from the bacteria or even mold getting in the food.
Start shopping thrift stores, garage sales, wherever, now for supplies. Jars can be found for $.10- $.50 at garage sales, etc. I bought my canner at St Vincents for $5.00. You will save oodles of money if you start now, before everybody else does.
Ball Corp. has a very good book on canning. Not so detailed but informative. I bought one at Wal mart two years ago( In the canning supply dept)
you should look around at diffrent websites to help you out in what you need for supplies.
http://www.homecanning.com/
grum and renpen are on the mark.
enjoy the your efforts.
What general advice can you ppl give me a 1st time skier??
I'm off in January to Bulgaria with 17 other people, They all done it before (except one of them) So me and her are going to do ski school. I brought my jacket today, But i plan on hiring everything else. What tips can you give me to help me out? Anything from Clothing, to help with my technique.
What general advice can you ppl give me a 1st time skier?? Or shall i try snowbording before sking??What general advice can you ppl give me a 1st time skier??
Well my advice is that u try skiing because snowboarding will be harder. I am sure you are going to fall a lot of times even if u use skies. Another thing is that clothing will not help you with your technique. And you can hire skies, without problem. Better skies wont make u ski better, trust me I knw. They will give u just fine skies.What general advice can you ppl give me a 1st time skier??
If you are only skiing on one trip, don't bother buying your own boots. ';Hired'; boots suck, but it's not worth it to buy new boots for one trip.
Technique: well, you have to get lessons. You really have to. You won't develop without the guidance of an instructor, and if you try without, you may actually end up in the first aid shack.
So, invest in lessons!
You want gloves, hat, and goggles as well!
1. if you fall over it hurts
2. dont eat yellow snow
3. its bloody cold so wrap up warm
Dont fall !
trust me get your own boot's too....and dont break anything
My daughter went skiing for the first time last year to Croatia, she bought everything except boots and skis.Her recommendation is definitely buy your own boots
What general advice can you ppl give me a 1st time skier?? Or shall i try snowbording before sking??What general advice can you ppl give me a 1st time skier??
Well my advice is that u try skiing because snowboarding will be harder. I am sure you are going to fall a lot of times even if u use skies. Another thing is that clothing will not help you with your technique. And you can hire skies, without problem. Better skies wont make u ski better, trust me I knw. They will give u just fine skies.What general advice can you ppl give me a 1st time skier??
If you are only skiing on one trip, don't bother buying your own boots. ';Hired'; boots suck, but it's not worth it to buy new boots for one trip.
Technique: well, you have to get lessons. You really have to. You won't develop without the guidance of an instructor, and if you try without, you may actually end up in the first aid shack.
So, invest in lessons!
You want gloves, hat, and goggles as well!
1. if you fall over it hurts
2. dont eat yellow snow
3. its bloody cold so wrap up warm
Dont fall !
trust me get your own boot's too....and dont break anything
My daughter went skiing for the first time last year to Croatia, she bought everything except boots and skis.Her recommendation is definitely buy your own boots
What advice would you give to a person who feels so hopeless that suicide seems like the only solution?
... and this person is not open to the concept of counselling/therapy.
... this person wants to isolate herself and dissapear
How would you help this person?What advice would you give to a person who feels so hopeless that suicide seems like the only solution?
I would say that you need to talk to them. Just listen. Maybe she just wants someone to listen. If she told you this, she wants you to listen.
If it's you, that you are talking about then
you need to know people care. Things will get easier. It's always darkest before the dawn. Everyone has hard times.What advice would you give to a person who feels so hopeless that suicide seems like the only solution?
Send them bright and cheery flowers with a little card to cheer them up. Everytime they see the flowers they might feel a little better...long enough to cope and work thru their depression.
Remind them that there is no going back for a redo after the fact. Better be absolutely positive first. Then I would remind them that it might be better to hang around a bit just to see what happens next.
suicide is easier to consider then to actually do(succesfully) but you can always try and see.
If that person is actually considering suicide, I would have that person involuntarily hospitalized as a suicide risk. Suicidality is a psychiatric disease, and it can be fatal, it's no less urgent than a physical wound or infection, and needs treatment, even if the person does not want it. By definition, anyone who is considering suicide (with only very few exceptions defined by serious endstage physical disease) does not at that point have the capacity to make their own health care decisions, so he (or she) must be treated, even if it's against his will.
I agree 100% with The Doc. Death isn't an option. That would only be the beginning of torment.
There is hope. The Bible teaches us that God is our hope. There is always something to hold to when we feel this way. Some days it may only be a tiny little sliver of something, but something at least.
If it is you or a friend - my advice would be to ';seek help'; and Pray to GOD to comfort and lead.
BTW GOD is with us even when we are alone and He loves each of us the same. The Bible also teaches us that HE is our help in our time of need.
Sometimes we focus on things too much and lose sight of the real purpose of life.
Hope this can be of help!
If she likes pets...I would like her to come to my place and help me teach my cat not to **** on the floor. She has a litter box, I need help to teach her how to use it.
Fortunately the only thing that can be done and the only person that can help you is you. You need to find the will to live and understand that is not a way out. And if you do this you hurt everyone around you. So if you are really serious and u just don't feel like going on then you need to put yourself in the Hospital and make yourself safe so that you cant harm your self. I'm sure that you are scared right now so consider it A time out and a small Vacation to get some help. Trust me I have been there , where you just don't know if you can go on. And the only way out you think is Suicide. But it's not. So take some time to your self and think really hard about what you are going to be throwing away. And understand that if you do it there is no coming back , and life is always going to be hard and challenging. And there is always going to be ups and downs. But trust me it always gets better I promise. It might not seem like it right now but It dose. Sp please just pray to God to give you Peace of mind and Live and be the great person that you are and that God had intended you to be.
God Bless you.
And please don't do it. Remember it dose get better.....
... this person wants to isolate herself and dissapear
How would you help this person?What advice would you give to a person who feels so hopeless that suicide seems like the only solution?
I would say that you need to talk to them. Just listen. Maybe she just wants someone to listen. If she told you this, she wants you to listen.
If it's you, that you are talking about then
you need to know people care. Things will get easier. It's always darkest before the dawn. Everyone has hard times.What advice would you give to a person who feels so hopeless that suicide seems like the only solution?
Send them bright and cheery flowers with a little card to cheer them up. Everytime they see the flowers they might feel a little better...long enough to cope and work thru their depression.
Remind them that there is no going back for a redo after the fact. Better be absolutely positive first. Then I would remind them that it might be better to hang around a bit just to see what happens next.
suicide is easier to consider then to actually do(succesfully) but you can always try and see.
If that person is actually considering suicide, I would have that person involuntarily hospitalized as a suicide risk. Suicidality is a psychiatric disease, and it can be fatal, it's no less urgent than a physical wound or infection, and needs treatment, even if the person does not want it. By definition, anyone who is considering suicide (with only very few exceptions defined by serious endstage physical disease) does not at that point have the capacity to make their own health care decisions, so he (or she) must be treated, even if it's against his will.
I agree 100% with The Doc. Death isn't an option. That would only be the beginning of torment.
There is hope. The Bible teaches us that God is our hope. There is always something to hold to when we feel this way. Some days it may only be a tiny little sliver of something, but something at least.
If it is you or a friend - my advice would be to ';seek help'; and Pray to GOD to comfort and lead.
BTW GOD is with us even when we are alone and He loves each of us the same. The Bible also teaches us that HE is our help in our time of need.
Sometimes we focus on things too much and lose sight of the real purpose of life.
Hope this can be of help!
If she likes pets...I would like her to come to my place and help me teach my cat not to **** on the floor. She has a litter box, I need help to teach her how to use it.
Fortunately the only thing that can be done and the only person that can help you is you. You need to find the will to live and understand that is not a way out. And if you do this you hurt everyone around you. So if you are really serious and u just don't feel like going on then you need to put yourself in the Hospital and make yourself safe so that you cant harm your self. I'm sure that you are scared right now so consider it A time out and a small Vacation to get some help. Trust me I have been there , where you just don't know if you can go on. And the only way out you think is Suicide. But it's not. So take some time to your self and think really hard about what you are going to be throwing away. And understand that if you do it there is no coming back , and life is always going to be hard and challenging. And there is always going to be ups and downs. But trust me it always gets better I promise. It might not seem like it right now but It dose. Sp please just pray to God to give you Peace of mind and Live and be the great person that you are and that God had intended you to be.
God Bless you.
And please don't do it. Remember it dose get better.....
How can you tell good advice from bad advice?
I wanted to put this question up to help others realise that not all advice they obtain is good advice. I myself think that if the person seems to know what he or she is talking about, and posts it in a intulectual manner, with proper sources, Not just: I know relationships, Or I know I know.How can you tell good advice from bad advice?
There's a old saying:
';Listen to too much advice and you end up making other people's mistakes.';
Take advice under consideration, but let the final call be yours.
There's a old saying:
';Listen to too much advice and you end up making other people's mistakes.';
Take advice under consideration, but let the final call be yours.
What advice do you give someone that wants to join the army?
Im in the Army.. I love it... I gotten my degree in criminal justice.. my brother wants to join but i really dont know what to tell him becuz he is older than me and i dont want to make it seem like its all fun and gamesWhat advice do you give someone that wants to join the army?
Alzheimer's/Dementia.What advice do you give someone that wants to join the army?
You got it right the first time! Explain- no, emphasize, it is not all fun and games,. It is a very serious commitment.
There are untold rewards, but those rewards are not without a price! You may get an opportunity to see places like Germany, Japan, etc, but you also may have the opportunity to see places like South Korea, Iraq and Afghanistan. No one GIVES you the GI bill, you EARN it.
I'm sure you and anyone else who has ever been in knows what FTA stands for. And I'm sure you;ve seen your share of hotshots who wanna become airborne ranger MP's who are reduced to sniveling POS by the end of the first week of basic.
Explain all this to him, just be sure he is certain of what he is in for, then let the chips fall where they may. He is furtunate to have some like you who has been there %26amp; done that. Stress the committment, and the rewards that follow.
If you're already in the Army and ';gotten'; a degree, you should already know what to tell him.
However, my advice is:
* Get to the point where you can run two miles in 18 minutes
* Be able to do 30 pushups (CORRECTLY!) and 30 situps w/o stopping
* Learn to make hospital corners on your bed
* Learn the Soldier's Creed before shipping to basic training
They'll teach you everything else
i would tell him to get wise and start making decisions for himself.
in the military they tell what to wear, where to live, who to kill...
Watch your six the Commander in Chief is a Coward.
Look at those poor guys in Afghanastan abandon on the battlefield dying as we speak and Obama doesn't care.
Semper Fi
During a ression or depression its good income and you get educational money. Why do we have ressions?
Try new hydrating Volvic Revive!
pick a job you'll like doing, otherwise you'll hate life
Alzheimer's/Dementia.What advice do you give someone that wants to join the army?
You got it right the first time! Explain- no, emphasize, it is not all fun and games,. It is a very serious commitment.
There are untold rewards, but those rewards are not without a price! You may get an opportunity to see places like Germany, Japan, etc, but you also may have the opportunity to see places like South Korea, Iraq and Afghanistan. No one GIVES you the GI bill, you EARN it.
I'm sure you and anyone else who has ever been in knows what FTA stands for. And I'm sure you;ve seen your share of hotshots who wanna become airborne ranger MP's who are reduced to sniveling POS by the end of the first week of basic.
Explain all this to him, just be sure he is certain of what he is in for, then let the chips fall where they may. He is furtunate to have some like you who has been there %26amp; done that. Stress the committment, and the rewards that follow.
If you're already in the Army and ';gotten'; a degree, you should already know what to tell him.
However, my advice is:
* Get to the point where you can run two miles in 18 minutes
* Be able to do 30 pushups (CORRECTLY!) and 30 situps w/o stopping
* Learn to make hospital corners on your bed
* Learn the Soldier's Creed before shipping to basic training
They'll teach you everything else
i would tell him to get wise and start making decisions for himself.
in the military they tell what to wear, where to live, who to kill...
Watch your six the Commander in Chief is a Coward.
Look at those poor guys in Afghanastan abandon on the battlefield dying as we speak and Obama doesn't care.
Semper Fi
During a ression or depression its good income and you get educational money. Why do we have ressions?
Try new hydrating Volvic Revive!
pick a job you'll like doing, otherwise you'll hate life
What is the best single piece of advice you would give to someone.?
If you were to give someone - a loved one/best friend/person who needs help/etc - one piece of advice to help them live their lives well, what would it be?What is the best single piece of advice you would give to someone.?
Don't run after happiness, just be cool and it would come in search of you..... being cool implies moderation and balance.What is the best single piece of advice you would give to someone.?
When you keep telling yourself something -- that is the program, what your family and background have hammered into you. What you keep denying to yourself, that is what you secretly want, and although you can't always get what you want, you have to integrate that feeling into your life to function fully.
Basic Freud, minus all the psycho-sexual bullsh!t.
It's alright to let go of me, I'm in the makers hands. If i should fall and break apart, the maker will pick up my pieces. If you insist upon holding me i will grow heavy with age and you will drop me just the same. Go now and make your burdens light and remember these words i leave with you; I'm in the makers hands.
When you come to the fork in the road
where you must go up or down.
Never take the path of ';least'; resistance,
or you will end up at the bottom with
everyone else. %26lt;}:-})
You and ONLY you are responsible for whatever happens to you! If you think this way you will always be happy and successful.
Not to worry to be happy.
''Always remember the people you met on your way up because you may meet them when you fall down''
Work to live, dont live to work.
Try to get help from those who have experience in life, because life is always reapeating
Embrace it all, not just the good bits. Seize the day, because we'll be dead before too long. X
Keep yourself wealthy of health
Own a pet rabbit.preventing blackheads
Don't run after happiness, just be cool and it would come in search of you..... being cool implies moderation and balance.What is the best single piece of advice you would give to someone.?
When you keep telling yourself something -- that is the program, what your family and background have hammered into you. What you keep denying to yourself, that is what you secretly want, and although you can't always get what you want, you have to integrate that feeling into your life to function fully.
Basic Freud, minus all the psycho-sexual bullsh!t.
It's alright to let go of me, I'm in the makers hands. If i should fall and break apart, the maker will pick up my pieces. If you insist upon holding me i will grow heavy with age and you will drop me just the same. Go now and make your burdens light and remember these words i leave with you; I'm in the makers hands.
When you come to the fork in the road
where you must go up or down.
Never take the path of ';least'; resistance,
or you will end up at the bottom with
everyone else. %26lt;}:-})
You and ONLY you are responsible for whatever happens to you! If you think this way you will always be happy and successful.
Not to worry to be happy.
''Always remember the people you met on your way up because you may meet them when you fall down''
Work to live, dont live to work.
Try to get help from those who have experience in life, because life is always reapeating
Embrace it all, not just the good bits. Seize the day, because we'll be dead before too long. X
Keep yourself wealthy of health
Own a pet rabbit.
Where should you seek inspiration and practical advice when trying to start your own business?
Practical advice, you can get from websites such as these:
Entrepreneur http://www.entrepreneur.com
Inc.com http://www.inc.com
SBA http://www.sba.gov/starting_business/
PowerHomeBiz.com http://www.powerhomebiz.com
Or use a service such as SCORE http://www.score.org
For inspiration, you may want to read of small business success stories, such as the following:
Women Home Business http://www.womenhomebusiness.com/
SBA Small Business Persons of the Year http://www.sba.gov/expo/Where should you seek inspiration and practical advice when trying to start your own business?
It depends on the type of business... in my particular case, i started a Design Studio looking the perfect natural shapes, then i began to mix that natural stuff with common images focused on the project i wanted to develop. I don't know, when i need inspiration i just go outside i try to relax a take deep breath series, and then i look around for the perfect shapes, sounds and scents to expand my ideas...Where should you seek inspiration and practical advice when trying to start your own business?
Other local small business owners are usually the most helpful and encouraging. Most free business consultants are like talking to bankers - you'll leave wishing you never went.
How you checked with your local county? I know my county in Virginia offers workshops and seminars specifically for small business owners and those looking to begin one. They even provide resources of what types of businesses they believe are needed in the county. hope that helps!
A hooka BAr
From what I have been told, business incubators are a wonderful resource for people that are starting up a new business. You could also start networking with other business owners in your industry and talk to them about how they were able to start their businesses. They are usually very helpful.
there are many business cunsultants in every field of bus u want to go into. but your best results can come from the oldest bus of the type you want in the area u r in and other areas. IE, talk to your competiters. They will give u an idea if your angel is original plus the base of operations that has been proven to work.
Entrepreneur http://www.entrepreneur.com
Inc.com http://www.inc.com
SBA http://www.sba.gov/starting_business/
PowerHomeBiz.com http://www.powerhomebiz.com
Or use a service such as SCORE http://www.score.org
For inspiration, you may want to read of small business success stories, such as the following:
Women Home Business http://www.womenhomebusiness.com/
SBA Small Business Persons of the Year http://www.sba.gov/expo/Where should you seek inspiration and practical advice when trying to start your own business?
It depends on the type of business... in my particular case, i started a Design Studio looking the perfect natural shapes, then i began to mix that natural stuff with common images focused on the project i wanted to develop. I don't know, when i need inspiration i just go outside i try to relax a take deep breath series, and then i look around for the perfect shapes, sounds and scents to expand my ideas...Where should you seek inspiration and practical advice when trying to start your own business?
Other local small business owners are usually the most helpful and encouraging. Most free business consultants are like talking to bankers - you'll leave wishing you never went.
How you checked with your local county? I know my county in Virginia offers workshops and seminars specifically for small business owners and those looking to begin one. They even provide resources of what types of businesses they believe are needed in the county. hope that helps!
A hooka BAr
From what I have been told, business incubators are a wonderful resource for people that are starting up a new business. You could also start networking with other business owners in your industry and talk to them about how they were able to start their businesses. They are usually very helpful.
there are many business cunsultants in every field of bus u want to go into. but your best results can come from the oldest bus of the type you want in the area u r in and other areas. IE, talk to your competiters. They will give u an idea if your angel is original plus the base of operations that has been proven to work.
What national food in London you would advice me to try?
Hi! I'll be in a short visit to London next week.
1) What national food should I definitely try?
2) Please advice me nice cafes or restaurants in London, not very expensive and not very cheap.
Thank you!What national food in London you would advice me to try?
English breakfy.
Yummi.
Baked beans!!!!, sausages, scrambled egges, bacon, sometimes chips and mushrooms as well.. basically depends on wot you like, oh yeah and toastie. yummi.
It just too delicious.
Nice cafes? Lol mostly them are Nero, Costa, Starbucks.
England rather famous of its pubs.
Some nice pubs well just go around Covent Garden and you will find a ton.What national food in London you would advice me to try?
Fish %26amp; Chips or anything from a Camden market stall.
lol, tea and crumpets
sorry, had to do it
fish and chips - a british dish
1) What national food should I definitely try?
2) Please advice me nice cafes or restaurants in London, not very expensive and not very cheap.
Thank you!What national food in London you would advice me to try?
English breakfy.
Yummi.
Baked beans!!!!, sausages, scrambled egges, bacon, sometimes chips and mushrooms as well.. basically depends on wot you like, oh yeah and toastie. yummi.
It just too delicious.
Nice cafes? Lol mostly them are Nero, Costa, Starbucks.
England rather famous of its pubs.
Some nice pubs well just go around Covent Garden and you will find a ton.What national food in London you would advice me to try?
Fish %26amp; Chips or anything from a Camden market stall.
lol, tea and crumpets
sorry, had to do it
fish and chips - a british dish
I planted some shallot bulbs and they are doing really well. Do you have any advice for a beginner?
How can I increase the number of plants, how do you harvest and use them? Do they flower?I planted some shallot bulbs and they are doing really well. Do you have any advice for a beginner?
I planted a few several years ago and they are now a large clump 4ft across. they bloom in two colors, white and lavender. Summer or winter, if I need a few I just take what I need from the edge of the clump. RScott
I planted a few several years ago and they are now a large clump 4ft across. they bloom in two colors, white and lavender. Summer or winter, if I need a few I just take what I need from the edge of the clump. RScott
What's the best most intruiging insightful advice anyone has ever told you in your life?
people have got so much more wisdom and experience and was just wondering what advice, spiritual or not that someones told you that you will never forget and just believe with all your heart is true? and who told you? thanks so much.What's the best most intruiging insightful advice anyone has ever told you in your life?
For me, it was the book ';The Selfish Gene'; by Richard Dawkins. It changed my outlook on life.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Selfish鈥?/a>What's the best most intruiging insightful advice anyone has ever told you in your life?
Through resourcefulness and hard work, my parents rose from near poverty to being fairly well off. At a very early age, I was taught by my father to know the value of a dollar. I was given an allowance of several dollars a week, and if I ran short, it was my own fault. I worked my way through college, and had to make my money last. Even today, I am a good money manager even though economic times are at an all-time low. There's a passage in the Bible that states: ';Raise a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it.'; No truer words have ever been spoken.
My best friends Grandmother always told us to ';Kill 'em with kindness!'; I really believe that is the way to treat others. This coincides with many spiritual beliefs about giving unto others. I think goodness prevails in most circumstances and have had pretty good luck with it.
Some of the most difficult lessons (experiences) in life are the ones we learn the most from. I don't remember who told me, however it has stayed with me for a long time.
';You can only control yourself'; - kind of goes without saying and although I knew this already it helps to be reminded of this whenever someone else does something that makes no sense to you at all.
Act in a way you want to be treated. If evreyone did that the world would be a better place. My mom said that to me.
There will always be someone who has it better off compared to you and someone that has it worse.
Get up you son of a *****, cause Mickey loves ya!
For me, it was the book ';The Selfish Gene'; by Richard Dawkins. It changed my outlook on life.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Selfish鈥?/a>What's the best most intruiging insightful advice anyone has ever told you in your life?
Through resourcefulness and hard work, my parents rose from near poverty to being fairly well off. At a very early age, I was taught by my father to know the value of a dollar. I was given an allowance of several dollars a week, and if I ran short, it was my own fault. I worked my way through college, and had to make my money last. Even today, I am a good money manager even though economic times are at an all-time low. There's a passage in the Bible that states: ';Raise a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it.'; No truer words have ever been spoken.
My best friends Grandmother always told us to ';Kill 'em with kindness!'; I really believe that is the way to treat others. This coincides with many spiritual beliefs about giving unto others. I think goodness prevails in most circumstances and have had pretty good luck with it.
Some of the most difficult lessons (experiences) in life are the ones we learn the most from. I don't remember who told me, however it has stayed with me for a long time.
';You can only control yourself'; - kind of goes without saying and although I knew this already it helps to be reminded of this whenever someone else does something that makes no sense to you at all.
Act in a way you want to be treated. If evreyone did that the world would be a better place. My mom said that to me.
There will always be someone who has it better off compared to you and someone that has it worse.
Get up you son of a *****, cause Mickey loves ya!
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