What is the worst advice from your own mother you've received?What is the worst advice your mother gave you?
My mother wasn't very open about sex, infact, my birds and the bees talk consisted of ';you know how babies are made don't you? He puts his ';thing'; in her ';thing';,'; - and there you have it - sex education in a nutshell. Marvellous!What is the worst advice your mother gave you?
I agree with Blue Eyes. My mother used to tell me to walk away and I grew up avoiding conflict at all costs and never learned how to stand up for myself. It affects me to this day but has gotten a lot better because I joined the military and gained a lot of confidence in myself and my own abilities.
I don't know where to start..
(This isn't the bad advice, just to the other answers) I always had the advice if someone punch me, to fight back. Later if someone is about to hit you, you swing first.
I don't know where to start though, parents usually don't give to much ';good advice';.
Honestly its how to discipline. Disciplining techniques vary a little or a lot from person to person. How she would discipline my daughter, I NEVER would. I know spanking was ok back in the day but I will not hit my kid, I use the time out strategy and that works for me. This and other minial discipling techniques that I just dont like. And it gets on my nerves when she tells me how the food I feed her is soooo bad compared to her ';from scratch'; homemade cooking. All I can say is whatever. She had her chance to be a parent, now it's mine.
';He's much to little to be drinking out of a sippy cup'; My son at 5 months who was breast fed, she gave him a bottle behind my back. He got so hooked I finally let him cry it out at 28 months.
I honestly can't think of any at the moment. My mom gives awesome advice. I'm still a teen, but even when I'm a parent I don't think she'll second guess me or give me bad advice. She's great.
well once in highschool I had a boyfriend hit me so I told her I was going to dump him and she told me ';you'll regret that';
Stay away from sex and drugs.
Take the Bears and the points. Lost big on that one. Thanks mom!
'when some one starts a fight with you, walk away'
blue eyes got it right on!
That is what my mom would tell me, but it never taught me to stand up for myself.
Friday, April 30, 2010
What is love to you and what is one piece of advice you can give for relationships?
I am doing a project for psychology and I need the following information: 1 - What is love (to you) 2 - What is one piece of advice you can give for a relationship? I need this information from each of the following age groups so please state which you apply to: (14-19) (20-29) (30-55) (55+). In addition, if you wouldn't mind stating your gender, that would benefit my project as well. This information be kept anonymous. Thanks!What is love to you and what is one piece of advice you can give for relationships?
i am 14-19 and i am a male. love to me is something that bonds you with another person. you cant buy it or anything like that. Love is a state when you just feel like doing anything for a person. some advice i would give is that the most important thing in a relationship is trust.What is love to you and what is one piece of advice you can give for relationships?
1. As I've never been in love, I'll take this from what I think it is, or should be. Having a feeling that everything is OK in the world, even if it's not, you have someone you can always depend on and they won't judge you, will listen, be loyal. Unlike some though, I don't think there is one person out there for everyone. I just think some are fortunate to find someone they fit well with. I myself don't believe I have someone out there.
2. Piece of advice? Don't rush into something just for the fun of it. Take time to get to know one another. Don't be jealous. Jealousy is a horrible thing. Be loyal and trustful. You can't base a relationship off of lies. And most importantly, don't take each other for granted because you never know when it could all be over.
I am female, and in the age group, 20-29.
If you feel that sinking feeling coming on that means your relationship is on the rocks, now may be a good time to re-examine your relationship with your loved one. There are several steps you can take to put you and your partner back on the road to recovery.
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[edit] StepsDecide if it is worth it. It is a sad fact about life, but some relationships may happen to be too far gone to save. Therefore, take some time to really think about the relationship. Find out the real cause of the conflict or breakup. Is it your fault or your partner's fault? If you are in an abusive relationship, physically or emotionally, it may be best to leave and find a fresh start. If not, you must be willing to take on the following steps with a passion. If at the end of the day you still think that the relationship is worth saving, then go all out to save it.
Pinpoint the problem. It is hard to fix a relationship when you do not know what went wrong. Talk to your partner to see if they are willing to try a problem-solving method known as ';Plus Delta';. If he or she is willing, take some quiet time out of your day where you two can do the following:
Each person needs a piece of paper folded length-wise into thirds.
Label the first column ';plus';, the second column ';minus';, and the third column ';delta';.
In the plus column, each of you must write several things that you personally find to be good in your relationship. Ex. ';our walks in the park'; or ';the way we wake each other up when we have a bad dream';
In the minus column, individually write what you each think are some negative aspects of your relationship. Ex. ';how we resort to screaming when angry'; or ';our lack of communication during arguments';.
Delta is a term used in math and science that means ';change in';. You should use this column to identify specific changes that you wish to make in your relationship. This can mean doing less of one thing or doing more of another thing. Ex. ';more cuddle time while watching T.V.';or ';planning special dinner dates'; or ';more daily communication';.
Share your thoughts. It is important that these thoughts are not shared in an angry or argumentative way. You should hold each other's hand while sharing your thoughts or cuddle up together. It may feel awkward to do this if you have been fighting a lot lately, but it can make a difference.
Listen. When your partner is talking, do not interrupt them to ';counter'; what they said or to defend yourself. Keep in mind that if they wrote something down under the minus column, it is because it is truly hurting or worrying them. Whether their feelings seem rational or not, it is important to respect them.
Take action. Try to identify some of the most important problems on each other's list and find a way to fix the situation. For example, if communication was a big problem, make it a point to talk to each other for twenty minutes each day without the T.V., radio, or computer on.
Maintain your progress. Be sure to apologize for hurting each other's feelings and repeat the process as often as needed.
[edit] TipsOften the best way to fix problems is to not verbalise it but just do what you know will help. That is, don't approach your partner and say ';We have problems, let's discuss and sort it out.'; Just make an effort first without saying so. People often feel more upset when they have to face the fact that the two of you have been having problems.
Showing affection and love only helps.
After the first ';Plus Delta'; exercise, it may be more convenient to try the method verbally. Just remember to remain respectful.
If you repeat the exercise on paper, you can put the old papers into a binder to look at them later as a memento to your progress.
You can use this method to repair relationships with informal co-workers, friends, and family members. You can, of course, leave out the physical contact and replace with just a quite, restful environment.
Agree to keep your ';Plus Delta'; exercises private.
[edit] WarningsNever force anyone to try something that they do not want to try.
This method may not work on all types of relationships.
The other party may not be ready or willing to save the relationship.
i am 14-19 and i am a male. love to me is something that bonds you with another person. you cant buy it or anything like that. Love is a state when you just feel like doing anything for a person. some advice i would give is that the most important thing in a relationship is trust.What is love to you and what is one piece of advice you can give for relationships?
1. As I've never been in love, I'll take this from what I think it is, or should be. Having a feeling that everything is OK in the world, even if it's not, you have someone you can always depend on and they won't judge you, will listen, be loyal. Unlike some though, I don't think there is one person out there for everyone. I just think some are fortunate to find someone they fit well with. I myself don't believe I have someone out there.
2. Piece of advice? Don't rush into something just for the fun of it. Take time to get to know one another. Don't be jealous. Jealousy is a horrible thing. Be loyal and trustful. You can't base a relationship off of lies. And most importantly, don't take each other for granted because you never know when it could all be over.
I am female, and in the age group, 20-29.
If you feel that sinking feeling coming on that means your relationship is on the rocks, now may be a good time to re-examine your relationship with your loved one. There are several steps you can take to put you and your partner back on the road to recovery.
Psychiatric Drug Effects
Did you know the side effects of Psychiatric Drugs include Death?
CCHR.org Free Amnesty letters
Act now for human rights victims See our live on-line demo.
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[edit] StepsDecide if it is worth it. It is a sad fact about life, but some relationships may happen to be too far gone to save. Therefore, take some time to really think about the relationship. Find out the real cause of the conflict or breakup. Is it your fault or your partner's fault? If you are in an abusive relationship, physically or emotionally, it may be best to leave and find a fresh start. If not, you must be willing to take on the following steps with a passion. If at the end of the day you still think that the relationship is worth saving, then go all out to save it.
Pinpoint the problem. It is hard to fix a relationship when you do not know what went wrong. Talk to your partner to see if they are willing to try a problem-solving method known as ';Plus Delta';. If he or she is willing, take some quiet time out of your day where you two can do the following:
Each person needs a piece of paper folded length-wise into thirds.
Label the first column ';plus';, the second column ';minus';, and the third column ';delta';.
In the plus column, each of you must write several things that you personally find to be good in your relationship. Ex. ';our walks in the park'; or ';the way we wake each other up when we have a bad dream';
In the minus column, individually write what you each think are some negative aspects of your relationship. Ex. ';how we resort to screaming when angry'; or ';our lack of communication during arguments';.
Delta is a term used in math and science that means ';change in';. You should use this column to identify specific changes that you wish to make in your relationship. This can mean doing less of one thing or doing more of another thing. Ex. ';more cuddle time while watching T.V.';or ';planning special dinner dates'; or ';more daily communication';.
Share your thoughts. It is important that these thoughts are not shared in an angry or argumentative way. You should hold each other's hand while sharing your thoughts or cuddle up together. It may feel awkward to do this if you have been fighting a lot lately, but it can make a difference.
Listen. When your partner is talking, do not interrupt them to ';counter'; what they said or to defend yourself. Keep in mind that if they wrote something down under the minus column, it is because it is truly hurting or worrying them. Whether their feelings seem rational or not, it is important to respect them.
Take action. Try to identify some of the most important problems on each other's list and find a way to fix the situation. For example, if communication was a big problem, make it a point to talk to each other for twenty minutes each day without the T.V., radio, or computer on.
Maintain your progress. Be sure to apologize for hurting each other's feelings and repeat the process as often as needed.
[edit] TipsOften the best way to fix problems is to not verbalise it but just do what you know will help. That is, don't approach your partner and say ';We have problems, let's discuss and sort it out.'; Just make an effort first without saying so. People often feel more upset when they have to face the fact that the two of you have been having problems.
Showing affection and love only helps.
After the first ';Plus Delta'; exercise, it may be more convenient to try the method verbally. Just remember to remain respectful.
If you repeat the exercise on paper, you can put the old papers into a binder to look at them later as a memento to your progress.
You can use this method to repair relationships with informal co-workers, friends, and family members. You can, of course, leave out the physical contact and replace with just a quite, restful environment.
Agree to keep your ';Plus Delta'; exercises private.
[edit] WarningsNever force anyone to try something that they do not want to try.
This method may not work on all types of relationships.
The other party may not be ready or willing to save the relationship.
Do you have any advice on how to stop possessive aggressiveness?
American Cocker
Male
14 months old
Neutered
Graduated obedience course
This is a totally new behavior. I have seen it no more then 2 or 3 times but I do want to stop it right now. If he is chewing on a bone or if he found something outside like a pinecone he will growl and charge if a dog tries to smell it (he won't bite of fight but his warning is impressive). He doesn't do that to any humans and not to every dogs either, only to certain dogs.Do you have any advice on how to stop possessive aggressiveness?
If he doesn't do it to humans and is only giving a showy display, I wouldn't worry about it. If there are other dogs around, pick up all the bones or high value toys. If it's over a pine cone at the dog park, the other dogs will just walk away and ignore him, and it shouldn't be a problem. It could be a problem if he steals the ball of another dog that also doesn't like to share his stuff, though. If you have any other questions, remember you can always call your trainer who should know how to help you and knows both you and your dog.Do you have any advice on how to stop possessive aggressiveness?
We had a female that did that. The best choice is to take away all bones and toys for a bit. since he does not do it to ALL humans and dogs you still need to stop it no matter how small or large the behaviour is. you should be able to take a bone or toy at any time from your dog with no hesitation. if you do go to grab the toy and he growls pat him on the nose and say in a stern voice 'No!' this just takes training and patience
good luck
Male
14 months old
Neutered
Graduated obedience course
This is a totally new behavior. I have seen it no more then 2 or 3 times but I do want to stop it right now. If he is chewing on a bone or if he found something outside like a pinecone he will growl and charge if a dog tries to smell it (he won't bite of fight but his warning is impressive). He doesn't do that to any humans and not to every dogs either, only to certain dogs.Do you have any advice on how to stop possessive aggressiveness?
If he doesn't do it to humans and is only giving a showy display, I wouldn't worry about it. If there are other dogs around, pick up all the bones or high value toys. If it's over a pine cone at the dog park, the other dogs will just walk away and ignore him, and it shouldn't be a problem. It could be a problem if he steals the ball of another dog that also doesn't like to share his stuff, though. If you have any other questions, remember you can always call your trainer who should know how to help you and knows both you and your dog.Do you have any advice on how to stop possessive aggressiveness?
We had a female that did that. The best choice is to take away all bones and toys for a bit. since he does not do it to ALL humans and dogs you still need to stop it no matter how small or large the behaviour is. you should be able to take a bone or toy at any time from your dog with no hesitation. if you do go to grab the toy and he growls pat him on the nose and say in a stern voice 'No!' this just takes training and patience
good luck
Do you have any advice/techniques for knitting a fairisle pattern?
Do you really have to tie off and break the yarn when you change colour and then tie it on again when you re-start? Seems very fiddly. I have knitted many things before but this will be my first attempt at a Fairisle pattern. Do you have any tips?Do you have any advice/techniques for knitting a fairisle pattern?
Learn how to weave the colours not in use.On the knit row,if you only have one other colour, hold it on top of your LEFThand finger, put the righthand needle in the stitch as usual, then under the other colour and knit them BOTH off (the second colour does not pass through the stitch). Do this about every 3 or 4 stitches and you will find your work stays flexible and neat. A bit difficult to describe, but well worth learning. When you need the other colour, either switch them over for more than 4 stitches (the first colour is then woven in as before) , or just hook it through with the righthand needle if it's only for one or two stitches. If you have more than one colour, hold them all as above and select as required. The purl side is worked in exactly the same way.
To carry a colour up the side, just slip the righthand needle under it for the first stitch only, as above.
Don't bother with bobbins, cutting off or any newfangled ideas - this is the way it SHOULD be done and is really easy once you've learned it.
Good luck - I'm now 82 years old, and in my teens I used to knit my future husband a new fair-isle pullover every week for a few months. It used to be a talking point in his office on a Monday morning!
Learn how to weave the colours not in use.On the knit row,if you only have one other colour, hold it on top of your LEFThand finger, put the righthand needle in the stitch as usual, then under the other colour and knit them BOTH off (the second colour does not pass through the stitch). Do this about every 3 or 4 stitches and you will find your work stays flexible and neat. A bit difficult to describe, but well worth learning. When you need the other colour, either switch them over for more than 4 stitches (the first colour is then woven in as before) , or just hook it through with the righthand needle if it's only for one or two stitches. If you have more than one colour, hold them all as above and select as required. The purl side is worked in exactly the same way.
To carry a colour up the side, just slip the righthand needle under it for the first stitch only, as above.
Don't bother with bobbins, cutting off or any newfangled ideas - this is the way it SHOULD be done and is really easy once you've learned it.
Good luck - I'm now 82 years old, and in my teens I used to knit my future husband a new fair-isle pullover every week for a few months. It used to be a talking point in his office on a Monday morning!
What's the best advice you could give someone who is planning on joining the Air Force?
What would be the best AFSC to take in your opinion?What's the best advice you could give someone who is planning on joining the Air Force?
I think the best advice I could give is that you tend to get out of the Air Force what you put in.
If I had to do it over again, I would look for an AFSC that played to my strengths and transferred to civilian life. You want to do something that you like and are good at. Eventually, you are going to separate or retire. Some people like to be outside a lot and CE or Aircraft maintenance is right up their alley, some people like working with computers.What's the best advice you could give someone who is planning on joining the Air Force?
It all depends on their ASVAB scores. Supposing they're qualified to take whatever they want, I'd tell them to choose something they really think they will love, and wait for the school to open to take it. You have to do whatever you take for 36 months before you're eligible to retrain, so if you hate it, it can be very unpleasant. I'd also have them look at the civiliain counterparts to their jobs as far as security, pay and advancement go, so their training is useful later. I'd also tell them to make darned sure they completed at least their CCAF Associate's degree while they're in. They're going to need it later.
The best AFSC is the one you both like and have aptitude for.
I liked mine...
Enlisted: Military Intelligence Specialist/Technician (20450/20470)
Commissioned: Psychologist (42P3B) ...actually, I had two AFSCs in this area...primary and secondary.
Good luck with your career.
i would pick a job that you know you will really like and that your good at. you can't quit no matter how much you hate your job.
I think the best advice I could give is that you tend to get out of the Air Force what you put in.
If I had to do it over again, I would look for an AFSC that played to my strengths and transferred to civilian life. You want to do something that you like and are good at. Eventually, you are going to separate or retire. Some people like to be outside a lot and CE or Aircraft maintenance is right up their alley, some people like working with computers.What's the best advice you could give someone who is planning on joining the Air Force?
It all depends on their ASVAB scores. Supposing they're qualified to take whatever they want, I'd tell them to choose something they really think they will love, and wait for the school to open to take it. You have to do whatever you take for 36 months before you're eligible to retrain, so if you hate it, it can be very unpleasant. I'd also have them look at the civiliain counterparts to their jobs as far as security, pay and advancement go, so their training is useful later. I'd also tell them to make darned sure they completed at least their CCAF Associate's degree while they're in. They're going to need it later.
The best AFSC is the one you both like and have aptitude for.
I liked mine...
Enlisted: Military Intelligence Specialist/Technician (20450/20470)
Commissioned: Psychologist (42P3B) ...actually, I had two AFSCs in this area...primary and secondary.
Good luck with your career.
i would pick a job that you know you will really like and that your good at. you can't quit no matter how much you hate your job.
What is the best advice that you can give to someone about facing challenges, believing and finding strength?
dont think about it and just do it---unless its suicideWhat is the best advice that you can give to someone about facing challenges, believing and finding strength?
Not one human being is like another...it is therefore hard to give good advices given the fact something that works with you won't necessarily be useful to somebody else...Generally speaking I'd say: meet the challenge if you're up to it, othervise hide in some mice hole and better wait for some chance comming your way...Believe what you see and what you feel...Finding strength ?! Yes, if you have any left...What is the best advice that you can give to someone about facing challenges, believing and finding strength?
sex
When facing challenges and problems ...
look for a support group that will help and guide you.
read inspirational stories.
enrich your thinking.
learn mood control.
count your blessings.
Most of all, do something about.preventing blackheads
Not one human being is like another...it is therefore hard to give good advices given the fact something that works with you won't necessarily be useful to somebody else...Generally speaking I'd say: meet the challenge if you're up to it, othervise hide in some mice hole and better wait for some chance comming your way...Believe what you see and what you feel...Finding strength ?! Yes, if you have any left...What is the best advice that you can give to someone about facing challenges, believing and finding strength?
sex
When facing challenges and problems ...
look for a support group that will help and guide you.
read inspirational stories.
enrich your thinking.
learn mood control.
count your blessings.
Most of all, do something about.
Can you give me advice about pet tortoises?or can you give me a pet which lives long?
The second question can not be:
a dog
a cat
a guinea pig
a rabbit
and fish
Thanks!Can you give me advice about pet tortoises?or can you give me a pet which lives long?
I work with turtles and tortoises and I think their fine as long as you don't need a lot of excitement from the pet to keep you interested. Some people get bored of them and then stop caring for them. A interactive long lived pet would be a bird and if you want a gentle one consider a dove (live up to 20 years) while ones like cockatoos live past 80 years old!Can you give me advice about pet tortoises?or can you give me a pet which lives long?
The Blue McCaw Parrot (very beautiful with golden underbelly and bright blue feathers everywhere else ... about 2 -3 feet in length from head to end of tail feathers) is a very good pet and lives about 80-90 years ... they are very intelligent and will talk up a storm once they learn a couple words they just keep learning. On the ';con'; side of this pet it does tend to be a bit noisy and some will become a ';one person'; type pet accepting one person and not being all that friendly to others.
Cats and turtles live the longest out of these animals. I would prefer a cat, since turtles tend to smell and arent very affectionate. A cat can live up to 20 years.
When I was wanting to buy a turtle at a super pet, they said that they dont carry them because of diseases, and that they only carry tortoises.
Now the tortoise that i was looking at was quite expensive, around two hundred dollars, but the turtoises dont carry samonella and they can live up to three hundred years. So if you do think about getting a turtoise make sure you put it in your will :P I actually know people who would do that..
A tortoise can live a very long time. There was one that lived for 175 years. You can learn a lot about them here http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tortoise
what kind of tortoise? I had a tortoise for many years , I have relatives who kept tortoises for 50-60 yrs. they need proper food, greens mostly, but check on thier specific dietary and vitamin-mineral needs. a dry place to hang out in, safety from dogs and children who may drop them. the occasional checkup. also they are susceptible to swallowing the wrong thing, so keep thier area cleared of small objects. parrots also live long lives, I have had several of mine 25 yrs. so far
well if you are careful and take good care of them crestsd geckos are great but that is if you have alot of time on you hands and about 70 dollars that is how much mine cost i bought it at alamo aquatics in san antonio tx
a dog
a cat
a guinea pig
a rabbit
and fish
Thanks!Can you give me advice about pet tortoises?or can you give me a pet which lives long?
I work with turtles and tortoises and I think their fine as long as you don't need a lot of excitement from the pet to keep you interested. Some people get bored of them and then stop caring for them. A interactive long lived pet would be a bird and if you want a gentle one consider a dove (live up to 20 years) while ones like cockatoos live past 80 years old!Can you give me advice about pet tortoises?or can you give me a pet which lives long?
The Blue McCaw Parrot (very beautiful with golden underbelly and bright blue feathers everywhere else ... about 2 -3 feet in length from head to end of tail feathers) is a very good pet and lives about 80-90 years ... they are very intelligent and will talk up a storm once they learn a couple words they just keep learning. On the ';con'; side of this pet it does tend to be a bit noisy and some will become a ';one person'; type pet accepting one person and not being all that friendly to others.
Cats and turtles live the longest out of these animals. I would prefer a cat, since turtles tend to smell and arent very affectionate. A cat can live up to 20 years.
When I was wanting to buy a turtle at a super pet, they said that they dont carry them because of diseases, and that they only carry tortoises.
Now the tortoise that i was looking at was quite expensive, around two hundred dollars, but the turtoises dont carry samonella and they can live up to three hundred years. So if you do think about getting a turtoise make sure you put it in your will :P I actually know people who would do that..
A tortoise can live a very long time. There was one that lived for 175 years. You can learn a lot about them here http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tortoise
what kind of tortoise? I had a tortoise for many years , I have relatives who kept tortoises for 50-60 yrs. they need proper food, greens mostly, but check on thier specific dietary and vitamin-mineral needs. a dry place to hang out in, safety from dogs and children who may drop them. the occasional checkup. also they are susceptible to swallowing the wrong thing, so keep thier area cleared of small objects. parrots also live long lives, I have had several of mine 25 yrs. so far
well if you are careful and take good care of them crestsd geckos are great but that is if you have alot of time on you hands and about 70 dollars that is how much mine cost i bought it at alamo aquatics in san antonio tx
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