You can just be there for her.
Give this marriage a chance, even though they are both young.
But I would tell her, please, be careful , do not get with child, for her to enjoy being married, and getting to know her new friends and family.
Treat this as a adventure... a lifes lesson.
Look my son got a girl pregnant when he was 19 and her 16. It was a Huge mess...and still is , but I got a beautiful intelligent 7 year old granddaughter out of it. It is a experience I would not change...What advice do you have for a parent who has no use for the person her daughter married?
To clear up a couple of things,he is in training not depolyed and I totally am upset with my daughters actions..it only shows she does not love him..I do not like him because he is a lying manuplating calculating punk, and I have no respect for either of them, but she is my daughter..
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Wow, it seems crazy. Hun, your daughter is now shifting into an adult and yes it is sad to see her dreams vanished because of a quick desicion. But just because she is married doesn't mean she can't go to college or university.
Will she regret getting married perhaps when the time comes. However she might not regret it and end up spending the rest of her life in happy wedlock.
Try to be pleasent to him, he is now part of the family and it would hurt her more if you pretend he isn't there or acknowledge her husband.
As for his parents have you thought perhaps they feel the same way about your daughter and the situation.
Be a woman and just be happy for your daughter.
As a woman in a relationship with a Marine Recruit, I am saddened to hear that she ran around on him all summer. What is it that HE did to make you dislike him so much? I would be upset with your daughter, not her husband. If you love your daughter you'll support her or you will lose her. My mother and father were quick to realize this when the found that I am to be married in the next year and a half to my boyfriend and they changed a lot. Just love her like you don't care. It is the best for you both.
I don't get it, quite frankly....you have no 'use' for your new son-in-law but it was your daughter who was running around and cheating on him behind his back, while he was in the service of our country.
wow.
Her dreams? if she was serious about her dreams she would have been concentrating on them while her then fiance was deployed, not running about with other men.
You need to re-examine the way you are thinking, Toots....with her history, your daughter is lucky the guy married her at all.
you have to be there for her no matter what because then she will resent you. but it is only fair for you to be able to tell her how u feel and make her aware of your concerns but in the end it is her life. if you did your job well she will be fine.
I was in the same problem but I was the teen involved the only thing you can do is be there for her. Try anything else she will leave and you won't know nothing at what is going on. this away you still have some say
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