Would you allow a bogus doctor to give you advice in raising your children?

I mean someone who claimed to be an ';expert'; and had studied child psychology and so on and then you found out (or someone did for you) that he didn't even have so much as an O -level in psychology?


Would you continue to take advice from him because ';he makes a lot of sense';?Would you allow a bogus doctor to give you advice in raising your children?
I don't disregard all expert advice, but so many of the experts that are ';child psychologist experts'; usually have no idea what they are talking about because they base their theories and opinions on a select few kids. They don't survey every family or child on the planet and usually the ones who survey the spanking issues get kids who were beat, not spanked, as children to base their theories on.





Now advice on normal childhood development, something that is fairly consistent from child to child, I can see regarding as good advice or newborn behavior because these things are generally the same from child to child.





I believe the best expert to go on is the ones that have raised children successfully (other moms and dads) into well mannered, sweet, respectful individuals and not these ';experts'; that more than likely don't have children of their own but survey their select groups of kids and already have biased opinions based on their surveys.Would you allow a bogus doctor to give you advice in raising your children?
You don't need any credentials or degrees in order to give good advice and make a lot of sense.





You don't have a doctorate %26amp; you think that people should heed your advice, right?





My kids make a lot of sense sometimes, give me a new way of looking at things that I hadn't thought of before.





It is a wise person who seeks out information %26amp; new ideas, then examines them, weighs them, to see if they will work in their lives.
No, because him claiming to have been an expert when he wasn't would make him a liar, and I have no need to talk any advice from someone who doesn;t even have their head on straight enough to be honest.
What kind of advice? Medical advice? If it's medical advice, then NO WAY! But if it isn't...





I would probably just listen to what he has to say. Would I act on it, I don't think so, but listen, I'd probably do that.
no - would you, why would you even ask.
No I would not.
Well, although a lot (most) of childrearing involves common sense, I'd be concerned about the fact that s/he was lying about their qualifications!


I'd still take their advice into consideration based on it's own merits, but their dishonesty would lower my opinion of them.
If some people take advice from Yahoo answers, a set of opinionated people (me included). What's wrong with your friends advice?
if it is working then i would listen. I don't think you necessarily need a degree to know how to effectively parent a child. A lot of it is common sense.
I don't let anyone outside of the family members I respect give me advice on my children.


My mom gave me tons of advice before I even had kids. My mother in law helps out whenever we need it.


I have a couple friends that I will ask.





But just because someone claims to be an ';expert'; doesn't give them credibility in my book.





You are just angry because the mother of your grandkids won't listen to YOU. Butt out... They're not your kids. And it's not your business to decide how they should be raised.
no got to a proper doctor woth the exams and qulalifiacations to back him up never take advice from a quack
You don't have any children Joan, you have four fully grown adults!





It's your daughter in laws decision who she takes advice from, at the end of the day qualifications don't always make good advice!
I would do what i do with everyone who gives me advice about my daughter. I will listen to what they say but wont necessarily take their advice unless i feel comfortable and happy with it But i believe that your daughter in law knows how to bring up her own children and to be honest it has nothing to do with you. If my partner's mother interfered like you do i would stop her seeing my daughter as it is not good for your grandchildren to grow up sensing that you dislike their mom so much
Hmm...Sounds like this person is giving advice you don't agree with?





Taking advice and considering the advice from others are two different things. Listening to sound advice is good. Following it is your choice.





You should certainly not consider this person's advice as ';professional'; advice, but that doesn't mean it is bad (or good).





After all, even professional advice isn't always right.





As for deciding to continue taking the advice or not...that decision is up to you and your grandchildren to decide, either all together, or on a case by case basis.





Good luck.





- JC
You should speak to your son about this.


The bloke doesn't seem to have any say in anything regarding the upbringing of his children.


Don't keep blaming your Daughter-in-law, BLAME YOUR VERY WELL RAISED SON TOO!


Or better still, keep your nose out.
So now she's the ';mother of your grandchildren'; instead of your daughter-in-law.





YOUR SON is part of that family too but you never blame him for anything. Do you really believe he's perfect?





Again Joan, they aren't your kids so leave them alone.
i would take into account wat he's got 2 say but not neccessarily use it if it sounds wrong dont do it get advice elswhere
No.......Family and Friends are the people I've taken advice from over the years Joan !
No Joan I would not!! It's the same when CHILDLESS people give you advice on how to bring up you children ...... IT REALLY BUGS ME!!!
Whats the difference between your daughter in law taking advice about her children from somebody without a qualification and you asking advice on here about your grandchildren from possibly equally unqualified people?
well if they hadnt lied about their qualifiactions and i had just assumed they were qualified for example then found out they werent then i would still take advice if i thought it was good but possibly in a different way. but if i found out he had been lying to me i would no longer trust that person at all
are you sure the mother of your grandchildren didn't just lie to you about his degrees to try and get you off her back...





it sounds like your meddling, and you sound like my mom and grandma. they drive me insane! my doctor doesn't prescribe medicine for every cough, so he's not good enough, and he's a quack, and bla bla bla. he really does have amazing degrees though, so i don't have to lie about his credentials(they are all hung on his office wall).





but i think you need to let your daughter, or daughter in law mother her children. you did your job, give her your advice, then back up, and let her do her job.





but, about the actual question, if he did have a medical degree, but not in psychology, then yes, i would still take my children to him, for medical reasons, not psychological, and i would take everything he said with a grain of salt.
Certainly should not use them. If they have been lying about qualifications report them!
The way I look at it anyone has the right to offer advise after all it is a free country and we all have our own opinions BUT when someone offers advice that doesnt mean I am going to listen. They are my kids and I am going to raise them the way I think is best for them. If your daughter is listening to this person and trying some of what is said and it works then why worry, if she is listening and it is harming the children than tell her enough is enough and she is going to end up loosing the kids. It is wrong for him to say he is all eduacted when he isnt but that doesnt mean he doesnt have some good ideas only that he is a fraud.
there are a lot of [experts] on this site just read some of the answers.
No........... would you then? What a silly question.