How do you feel about your divorce, and what advice would you give?

For example, is there anything you wish you had done differently at all?How do you feel about your divorce, and what advice would you give?
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My son is happy.





Her and I get along way better when I only see her a few times a week





=)How do you feel about your divorce, and what advice would you give?
It's not the answer to somethings and yet it maybe the answer to everything. One should really think about this before you sign the paper to go through with it. Never make a snap choice think it through when you have children that will be affected by it. If you really can't seem to make things work and you have tried for a period of time. You may find yourself sitting in front of an attorney. The real difference for women are by they time they are in front of that attorney she has already accepted the fact the marriage is over. The man on the other hand will feel it as the marriage is final and over he will start to feel the loss. Never talk down the mate who has left and your children will have an easier time of it. If you talk down the mate your children will lean to that mate because he feels you are being mean to that mate. Sometimes the marriage ends out no caring for each other, its no one fault and no one should be guilty. It happens., its hard on kids so be careful of how you handle it.
nope, not really, I wouldn't change much.


advice: be fair, don't use it as a forum to get back at each other, you should both move on with your lives , and you can't do that while you're stabbing each other in the back.


Take what you brought into it and split what you got together. If it was a 1 income household, sit down and figure out how to get the other to the point where they can maintain a household on their own (be that , school, alimony, getting a job,new career whatever..be creative if you have to). But be fair.


Do not , under any circumstances , no matter what..use your kids as pawns or even use them as counsellors..they do not need to hear that crap! I don't care what your ex did, does,etc. doesn't matter. it's still their mom or dad.


Do talk to them and get them counselling if they need it, and have a united front for them. Don't put them in the middle of any fights!
My divorce caused my downfall even after I remarried. I became emotionally lonely and have low self esteem and not 'myself ' anymore till now.


I should have gone to a counsellor..and forgiven him even there were lots of his doings were unforgivable.


My advise:


Think of his ';possitives';, forgive him and go to a marriage counsellor together. ';Never say never';. Try all avenues first.
sweetie if i had it to do all over again i would never have done it, i had a really good wife and mother of my kids, i threw 23 yrs right out the window, but i didnt see it that way then, so im sitting here all alone, and let me tell u it gets lonley, i have dated but the women are not interested in love anymore, they all want to have a relationship thats open, to where they can come and go with whomever they chose, my advise is to work it out if possible, make the changes u have to and accept the ones that caint be changed as long as they are not like cheating and lieing, it comes back home to u later on, and hits u pretty hard, and by then its to late
I wish I had hunted him and his play toy down and beat both their a@@@..Regret that. .threw 20 years of marriage down the toliet..I wish I had set his new car on fire..there I feel better...
Now, 27 years later, I wish I would have known about Bird Nest custody.

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