What advice do you have in dealing with your children's playmates parents?

Do you put up with them for the sake of the children's friendship or allow your self to ';used'; by the other parent? Allow me to explain- This parent does not have a car and is constantly asking me for rides everywhere and even to borrow my vehicle. I just met her about 4-5 months ago. I don't know mush about her -but from what I have experienced she may have some financial hardships and is pretty bossy- on top of that she is constantly calling me especially if she's working up the nerve to ask for a favor..... Do I cut her off or try to deal with the situation?What advice do you have in dealing with your children's playmates parents?
That's a really tough situation. You need to set some boundaries with her. It appears that she has no idea where to draw the line herself so you need to tell her. If you don't feel comfortable giving her rides everywhere and her asking to use your car then tell her. Sure, she can get upset, but you aren't on this earth to be her free taxi. I understand that your children are friends, but there comes a point where you have to do something. You aren't always going to be friends with your childrens' friends' parents. It just isn't how it works all the time. Sometimes it does work and things are great but sometimes it's just a bad combo. I recently had an incident where one of my oldest daughter's friends mother wanted to use me to further her standing at the school our children attend. When she found out I wasn't about to lie for her so she could get a tuition break(she was too lazy to meet the criteria with one child while I broke my butt to do it with 4 and pregnant) so then after that she totally turned not just on me, but my daughter and it was hard on her because she was good friends with this woman's little girl and this woman went out of her way to invite ALL the children in her class to a birthday party for her daughter EXCEPT my daughter who was the little girl's best friend. She made sure my daughter knew she wasn't invited by constantly bringing up the party infront of her and saying things like ';this is just for the one's invited to ';hanna's'; party everyone else tune yourselves out. It broke her heart! So I had to sit my daughter down and explain to her that her friend's mommy didn't like me because I wouldn't lie for her and that was really hard for her to understand. So be prepared for that. But you really shouldn't be turned into a slave by proxy for the friendship of your children. Besides, in a few years her daughter will start emulating her ways and then she'll be using your daughter too.What advice do you have in dealing with your children's playmates parents?
Just politely say..Oh Im so sorry but it's not convenient now.'; To whatever she wants...if she presses for details then get firmer...';It's a family thing and personal'; Or ';Its not something I need to talk about'; She'll get the message.
like me you need to just learn to say no its hard but shell get over it
Don't you know how to say the word ';No';? If you allow her to use your car and she gets into an accident YOU are liable for any damages she causes. Would it be okay with you if your auto insurance went up or if they cancelled your policy because someone else got into an accident with your car? If you don't want to be used as a taxi service say no. This has nothing to do with your children playing together.
Just tell her no in a nice way. If that doesn't work, just say sorry you need to find someone else to give you a ride. If she comprimises the friendship over what you two have is her choice and unfortunate but something that can't be helped. You shouldn't let yourself be used for your childs friends. They will be friends reguardless of if there parents like each other or not.